Really Need info

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Registered: 10-08-2003
Really Need info
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 4:00pm
Hi there, I want to find a good place to research both sides of the debate. I have a friend who has two kids that were vaccinated and are now regressive autistic and two kids that weren't vaccinated and are completely fine. And I wasn't ever completely vaccinated, managed to live through the measles. I'm 4 1/2 months pregnant and trying to make a plan to tell my doctor before the baby is taken out of me and poked with 16 needles.
I'm sorry to say but I feel very ignorant on the matter and I would like to be able to make a informed decision one way or another.
And is there a possibility to only vaccinate partially? And what all does the delayed schedule involve?
Sorry to ask so many questions but I'm so lost and I don't want to harm my baby.
Thanks so much for your help.
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Registered: 07-17-2005
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 10:54pm

My days of being intimated by doctors came to an end slowly. I had one argue with me about the rate of autism. I had one scare me silly over the freaking Tetanus shot (of all shots). I had a nurse tell me my child would die with Chickenpox. I had one doctor tell me that she doesn't give her kids the Hep B. I had one tell me that the reason they give the Hep B so young is because parents are slack about bringing older kids in for vaccines...a shot for a sexually transmitted disease given at birth instead of at 5 when the kid is entering school - DUH!

They rely on a parent's fear. They use numbers from hundreds of years ago and in underdeveloped countries - the parents don't question them. They are doctors, they are the all-knowing!

(After all - they've been trained using pharma-approved textbooks!)

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Registered: 07-17-2005
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 10:45pm

"I wasn't sulking when I wrote that (really - I wasn't. :-)) "

Yeah I know :)

People do need reminders though. I recently met someone who's son is adopted and she really had a hard time being a first-time Mom and although her troubles were different than mine, she still had them.

It is likely that it happened to your BM too. When I was pregnant I can remember reading stories about that kind of treatment. It is one of those "oh it won't happen to me" things. Looking back, I also remember assuming it was all normal *doctor* stuff and we shouldn't question it.

I'm so glad to see women standing up for what's right!

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Registered: 08-02-2007
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 11:06pm


I haven't given my son but 3 shots and they were only given to him because the dr in the hospital made me feel like crap and I gave in and the other 2 were by his ped and she talked me into it.

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Registered: 04-03-2007
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 7:50pm
OMG i am so sorry you went through this. so sorry....

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Mon, 04-20-2009 - 7:47am

I wasn't sulking when I wrote that (really - I wasn't. :-))


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Sat, 04-18-2009 - 3:24pm

Before giving birth I had my appendix removed. During the ER exam, the man stuck his finger up my a$$ while telling me he was doing it...not in so many words but it left pain that still makes me shudder today. I don't remember if a female nurse was in the room or not, at the moment I was in intence pain. During childbirth, that's much worse. I cannot even imagine...oh it makes me sick!

Have any of you ever heard stories about women who had an OBGYN be downright pissy over the women not wanting interventions during before and after labor???

I think back to my own experiences, the difference between a midwife and an OB are like night and day. My last experience was with an OB/GYN. She got angry at me over not wanting pitocin. My friend came in and said "oh you've done pissed her off". I can't remember the details but she overheard a phone conversation she said she couldn't help but hear (the OB was talking rather loud). Before that my Mom asked "why does she keep pushing it? You could tell she was angry about it...WHY? All over a little bit of her precious time???

I was lucky enough to be one of those women who felt physically wonderful after both birth experiences because I had no medical interventions at either birth. However, I can say the first was a much better experience all the way around because there was a midwife in charge, not an MD. I wish all these other women could have had the same easy experiences. I'm with Robin, it makes my heart ache!

I just don't understand how this keeps happening! It seems like in a courtroom we should be able to easily prove that they caused more physical pain than necessary and then the emotional pain on top of makes me sick!

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Sat, 04-18-2009 - 2:33pm

Just guessing Randi but I bet there is nothing easy about adoption. Motherhood is Motherbood and it's never easy!

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Sat, 04-18-2009 - 2:06pm

Make a birth plan, have it in writing. I did this. I went to the hospital months before my daughter arrived, got a tour and met the nurses. I had my birth plan on like a half a dozen pieces of paper, just in case someone lost their copy, lol. You will not believe this, but I still had TWO nurses come into my room to "Take the baby for her vaccines"...needless to say those two nurses never set foot back in my room. I also had it CLEARLY STATED that my baby would not leave my room unless accompanied by my Mom or my husband. The nurses, in their defense, were just trying to be helpful, but they continued to come in and ask if they could take her into the nursery - UGH! The two that came in to take her for vaccinations really pissed me off. One told me that she "would die" from chicken pox if I didn't vaccinate her!

I just have to wonder how often they get away with that kind of intimidation! From what Jamie posted, I'm thinking it's probably often - it makes me so angry! Gosh, motherhood is hard enough, the medical profession should re-evaluate!

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Sat, 04-18-2009 - 1:53pm
I wondered what you meant too, I was almost afraid to ask. Now I'm just plain mad! I'm so sorry you had to endure such a traumatic experience!
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Registered: 10-18-2007
Fri, 04-17-2009 - 3:04pm

I usually leave this detail out, it can take some time before you stop blaming yourself for what happened.

Lawsuits are options, but are pretty stressful, and sometimes costly. For me, I simply tried to disappear... I still do.

So, you do your best to look through the windshield instead of the rearview mirror. Some days that's easy, some days, not so much...