Touchy subject

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Registered: 06-26-2009
Touchy subject
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Tue, 01-19-2010 - 8:27pm

Okay, here's a facet I haven't seen covered...


I vax. I have a lot of friends whose children I spend a lot of time around. (We're a homeschooling network. Figure I see these kids 1 to 3 times a week.) Some of these families do not vax.


I am having a baby. For the early months s/he will not be fully vaccinated because it takes time. During that time s/he will be susceptible to infection.


Within the social circle it is generally accepted that kids are curious and that curiousity extends to new babies. Kids are going to want to see, touch, hold the baby.


How do I say, "vaccinated kids only" without people getting indignant? I don't always know which families do and don't vax, just that there are several who don't. (I know a couple for sure but it's not like I ask people.) I am not willing to subject my baby to close contact with possible vectors and if I have to tell people their kids are a disease risk I will, but I'm looking for the gentle way to allow the vaccinated kids access without risking my own child's health before the baby vaxs are all done.

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Registered: 11-17-2007
In reply to: just_elsa
Tue, 01-19-2010 - 9:17pm
What is it exactly you fear your baby will "catch" from an unvaxed child? Are there outbreaks of some diseases in your area? Actually the VAXED kids are more likely to make your baby sick as they shed live virus for up to 3 weeks, after being vaxed with one.
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Registered: 10-18-2007
In reply to: just_elsa
Tue, 01-19-2010 - 10:18pm

Just treat them all like they aren't vaccinated, or the vaccine didn't confer sufficient immunity. If children are sick, in any way, keep them away from your infant. This goes for adults too, and it's likely the ones you socialize with haven't been vaccinated in decades, unless you'd ask them if they're up to date on their vaxxes too?

Vaccinating will not ensure that any person can resist disease... best to treat everyone like they don't have immunity, and everyone is a risk (because they are), and not create a false sense of security simply due to vaccination status.

Jamie

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Registered: 06-16-2009
In reply to: just_elsa
Wed, 01-20-2010 - 1:02pm
ditto this.

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Registered: 11-06-2009
In reply to: just_elsa
Wed, 01-20-2010 - 1:36pm

Congratulations!


This is a touchy subject.

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Registered: 06-26-2009
In reply to: just_elsa
Wed, 01-20-2010 - 1:59pm

I live in an agricultural area. Our high population of migrant farmworkers from out of the country and without access to health care means we do have more-frequent-than-most outbreaks of measles among other things.


Your "vaxed kids are dangerous!" stance does not match the information medical experts have provided me. The question at hand is not "Shall I let the unimmunized place my baby in danger?" but rather, "What is the polite way to tell parents who choose to take that risk that their children may not touch the baby?"

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Registered: 06-26-2009
In reply to: just_elsa
Wed, 01-20-2010 - 2:03pm

Thank you. :)


And yes, it goes without saying that anyone showing signs of illness does not get to touch the baby. My concern is that in the contagious stage of many of the preventable childhood diseases, the infected party shows no symptoms. (That's how half my jr. high ended up with chicken pox back in the day when it was not preventable.)


You're probably right. Best bet is simply to only allow the kids whose parents I *know* have innoculated them access. It may leave someone out but better that than letting someone else's refusal to vax hurt my kid.

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Registered: 11-06-2009
In reply to: just_elsa
Wed, 01-20-2010 - 4:55pm

You can soften the blow with a little caution - "She/He just ate and might spit up".

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Registered: 06-16-2009
In reply to: just_elsa
Wed, 01-20-2010 - 5:33pm
I also suggest investing in a sling.. there are a number of benefits to babywearing but one of them I found to be very helpful early on was that it limited contact with others. It also allows for on demand nursing with is very helpful with regard to the transfer of maternal antibodies

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Registered: 10-18-2007
In reply to: just_elsa
Wed, 01-20-2010 - 10:36pm

<<"What is the polite way to tell parents who choose to take that risk that their children may not touch the baby?">>

"Your child may not touch the baby".

Why pretend that you don't want to hurt feelings? If you feel you need to discriminate based on vaccination status, then just do it. It's a lot easier online though isn't it?

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Registered: 06-26-2009
In reply to: just_elsa
Thu, 01-21-2010 - 2:23pm

If your feelings are hurt because I don't want my baby at risk for the measles that's not really anything I can help you with.

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