2nd C/s...any easier?

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Registered: 12-17-2003
2nd C/s...any easier?
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Wed, 03-17-2004 - 10:10am
I'm closing in on my second C/s date (3-30), and I'm starting to get a little nervous! I am primarily concerned about being able to take care of our 21-month old DD plus a newborn...plus heal from surgery. I was wondering if the pain is any less with the second C/s. I've heard that, but I'm a bit skeptical. Also, any tips on taking care of a toddler along with healing?

I appreciate the advice. I've been chatting on the March '04 board, but I was excited when I found this one. Thanks again!!

Melly

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Registered: 01-01-2004
Wed, 03-17-2004 - 10:28am
Dear Melly,

Usually a scheduled c-section is easier than an emvergency c-section. I vaguely remember having a 22 mos. old and a newborn. I didn't have much of a problem. I did make sure that we had her in a bed at naptime so that I didn't have to lift her into a crib. My DH took a week off work and then it was me alone with the little ones. When he walked to the door I remember feeling overwhelmed. I was going to be outnumbered. After a day, I was fine. When you are taking care of the baby, involve your dd as much as possible. REad to her while you are nursing. Have her help you by getting diapers, wipes, etc. My dd loved being the older sister.

It will be okay. You can do it!

Ann EDD 9-28 #7

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Registered: 08-05-2003
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 6:43am
Well I had my second c/s on 3/9 and I already feel preety good, I have a 5 1/2 yr old and a 7 yr old that I have to take care of, DH works long hours so I guess I had the will to get up and get moving, I was hurt at first but that same night they made me get up and walk aroud the bed, everyday I did a little more and by the time I got home I was up and moving around, I was very surprised that I was able to move around the way I did.. I say just take it one day at a time and do as much as you can be sure to rest when you get the opportunity....

Good Luck to you... all will be ok:-)

G & Baby Bambino

3/9/04

ds 5/2/98

dstepd 2/21/97

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Fri, 03-19-2004 - 10:34pm
My 2nd was harder physically than my 1st (which followed 24 hrs of labor). HOWEVER, they screwed around with my pain meds (hello? Tylenol? No, that only works on TV--gimme something GOOD!) so I ended up playing catch up to the pain for too long. When I complained to 1 sympathetic nurse that the pain was like a fire she couldn't believe that no one had told me it was "normal" on a repeat c/s because they go through scar tissue. She was also the nurse that made sure I got some good pain meds.

My DH was home with me for 3 days when babe came home but then he had to go back to work. My mom and aunt took turns coming by during the day to help out. My older DD was 2 3/4 so I made sure I had easy breakfast stuff for us. Kept sippy cups in the fridge ready for her plus had "portable" breakfast things like bagels or dry cereal. Someone would be by in time to work on lunch with us. And my aunt was awesome about making sure I got a nap in while she got supper ready to go. The adjustment really went well for us.

Good luck!

Julie #3 edd 4/20 (so the repeat c/s must not have been *that* bad, right? :-))

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 03-20-2004 - 4:37pm
My 2nd was much easier. I had my DH take a couple of weeks off to stay home and help me with our 2 year old....by then I was totally fine to handle both kids. It's not easy being the mom of 2 but I never thought it would be ;-) good luck! Melisa
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Registered: 07-17-2003
Wed, 03-24-2004 - 4:12pm
My 2nd section was no problem at all. Except for the fact that it was emergency. The day they sent me home I took care of my 2 1/2 year old without a problem.. and I also did grocery shopping. I wasn't supposed to but I felt fine and I'm kid of stubborn about people telling me what to do. The docs said to start doing my normal stuff when I felt up to it... So I did. *smiles*