Asserting your rights in the hospital

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Registered: 02-26-2004
Asserting your rights in the hospital
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Sat, 04-17-2010 - 1:09pm

I also posted this on the June 2010 board, but I thought maybe since this is a board just about c-sections, someone might have some ideas for me.

I'm planning on c-section #3. For both of my first two pregnancies and deliveries I had excellent OB care and excellent care in the hospital, but I had some issues that are minor in the grand scheme of things, but they made me mad and I hope to avoid them this time.

I was told that usually they will bring you the baby while you're in recovery and you can try to breastfeed then. It didn't happen either time. With DS they were concerned about him not being able to maintain his blood sugar. They fed him the first two times before I ever got to see him. I didn't get to hold him for nearly 4 hours. With DD I also didn't get her for nearly 4 hours. Now I don't remember exactly why. She was SGA (small for gestational age) and I don't remember if it was a blood sugar thing or a temperature thing or they were just monitoring her because of her size, but it was making me crazy.

With DS they said he needed to get formula because his blood sugar was too low. I was OK with that, but this time if I have GD again (even if I don't) I'm going to ask that any supplementation happen at the breast. With DS I was able to insist that they didn't give him any artificial nipples. I don't even mind if they bring the baby to me and have to take her back to the nursery to test her blood sugar again or whatever. I just don't want to wait 4 hours with DH going back and forth between me and the nursery and never getting to see the baby. Once they brought me the babies, I was relatively happy with the care.

I guess my main question is how do I convince them (ideally without throwing a major hissy fit) to bring me my baby if they have all these "medical" reasons to keep her in the nursery and I'm stuck in bed? I don't think it was critical for either of my other babies to stay in the nursery the entire time and this time I don't want to wait 4 hours to hold my baby.

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Sun, 04-18-2010 - 10:58am
I'm hiring a doula for the same reason (though both my previous c-sections ended in extended NICU stays)...this time we are hoping to avoid that with a new doctor, hospital and action plan...but I definitely want someone who knows what I want and is going to be my advocate for me...plus the doula is a certified LC as well...so I'm hoping to be more successful with breastfeeding...
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Tue, 04-20-2010 - 7:28pm

I had a birth plan which detailed such things for my first birth (emergency C), VBAC attempt (also ended in a C) and my 3rd scheduled C. The doctor took it and put it in my file and I also brought copies with me. I asked my assigned nurse to please review it which she did.... and

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Fri, 04-30-2010 - 3:21am
Wow, I can't imagine how you felt being separated from your babies for that long. With my 1st c-section, DS was born at 5:07pm and we were only separated for about an hour from 8pm to 9pm for his bath and to be under the warmer to get his temp back up from the bath. With my 2nd c-section, DS was born at 8:03am and it was the same thing...we were only separated for about an hour for a bath and to get his temp back up from 1pm to 2pm. My nurse this time was also a LC. I remember she asked me if I was breast or bottle feeding and I said breast, but she never said anything further about her plans for the operating room. I was a little out of it from the Ambien (sleep aid) they gave me the night before, so I don't remember if I told her that I wanted him with me immediately or not. She was AWESOME in the operating room. I heard her say that she was gonna get him cleaned off, get his first apgar and get him weighed and then bring him to me. I had no idea what she meant by bring him to me. She came over to me as she was telling me his weight and she unsnapped my hospital gown at my shoulders and walked away. She came right back with DS and put him on my bare chest, skin to skin and he was there all morning. It was awesome. I don't know why some hospitals separate moms and newborns if they have no medical problems. Crazy!
If a major hissy fit is needed to get them to understand and to know that you mean business, then by all means go for it. Good luck! I hope you don't get separated!
Jen
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