Can't wrap my head around 2nd section

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Can't wrap my head around 2nd section
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Thu, 05-27-2010 - 3:38am

Hi girls, I guess I am on this message board looking for some positive ways to get my head around the possibility of a 2nd c-section. I just met with my OB for the first time, as we have just moved states and thus I needed a new doctor. After chatting with him I get the impression that we are looking at a section. I am rather keen on a VBAC as I think I can really do it! I want to experience what most other woman get to experience.


My first c-section was an emergency section, and not the best experience. I actually am quite emotional about the thought of another one because of it. There was a huge rift in communication with my first birth, which created unneeded stress.


I know it sounds crazy, but for myself I think of things like what kind of woman am I who can't give birth vaginally...and the various other things about why me? and why can so many woman do it, and I can't? It looks like it might go to a section as I am already 2 weeks ahead size wise, and the big problem with my first child was his size. He never engaged and was a big boy (head size and weight)


Any ideas on how to put this in perspective would be greatly appreciated. I am usually a very logical person, but this whole thing is making me an emotional mess!I know the best result is a healthy baby and healthy mom.....but I just think I am sad that I will never know what a contraction is, or any of the other bit of joy about a vaginal birth.


cheers


Cath

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Sat, 05-29-2010 - 7:19pm

Ah, yes. I too am at the point of should I be selfish and try to give birth naturally, or plan a section. At this point the inevitability of a planned section seems the likely thing. I think I generally give birth late, so waiting for things to go naturally doesn't seem an option.


I think I will leave it and try not to stress about it. I will see if I get any twinges that might suggest going naturally might occur. Last time I had nothing, no show, no braxton-hicks....so tht was a sign something was up!


Good luck with your decision. I am trying to focus on the idea that all we want is a healthy baby, and me not stressed after more trauma at the hospital.


This baby business is just not easy! lol


Cath

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Sat, 05-29-2010 - 11:10am

I am in much the same boat at the moment. I originally decided to plan a c/s for this child, our third c/s. I just want to have a positive, peaceful, less stress experience. I would like to plan for it and make it the best experience possible.

I happened to run into a midwife whom I talked about my labors to and she believes I am a good candidate for a VBA2C. So now I'm in a quandary!

After talking to some women about their cesareans the reality of serious dangers of surgery once again concerned me. I'm trying to keep an open mind accepting which ever happens, happens. I hope to go into labor naturally before my OB is demanding a c/s.



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Sat, 05-29-2010 - 5:08am

After having some time to think about it, I think I have come to terms with the possibility of having to have a section the 2nd time around. I am only having two children, so this will be the last. I am not happy about it, but I want a healthy baby.


I guess I am struggling with the idea of why can't I give birth vaginally like everyone else? A lot of why questions coming up from me in the next few weeks. My ultimate goal is to have a drama free birth, as my first was hectic and quite a negative experience.


My doctor, whom I only met this week, is the only one I can see as he is the only one who can do sections at the hospital that I live closest to. I am going to be optimistic and make a decision when I know more facts. My first child did not engage and I had no signs of going into labour naturally, so I will be looking for those eagerly!


cheers


Cath

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Fri, 05-28-2010 - 9:33am

If VBAC is important to you I would hate to see you not try just because of how your provider feels. Is it possible to find another provider that likes attending VBACs? Have you contacted your local ICAN chapter to ask about different providers?

Check out spinningbabies dot com, birthing a baby, especially a larger one will go better if they're in the right position.

My third birth was a vbac attempt ending in a c/s. Although I was very disappointed at first that I had the c/s at least I knew that I did everything I could and that *I* made the choice to have another cesarean. I also took great delight and pride in my drug free labor. I still felt like the birth was a victory.

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Thu, 05-27-2010 - 8:52pm

Hi Cath,


Congrats on this new baby! I hope you consider cross posting your message on the VBAC board... those ladies may have thoughts for you too!

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