Dr wants to do C-section; I'm not sure
Hi, everyone. I'm 24 weeks PG with my 2nd child. My first was a vaginal delivery at 40 weeks with a 4th degree tear. My son was 8 lbs. 13 oz. with a 15.5 inch head (much bigger than average, apparently). The recovery was unbelievably bad, and 4 years later, I still don't feel completely normal down there. Last week my OB told me he wanted to do a C-section this time because he's worried about more tearing. I told him I'd rather have a vaginal delivery, maybe induced at 38 weeks (if possible) with the goal of keeping any tearing down to a 2nd degree. He told me that I couldn't afford ANY more vaginal tearing because I couldn't risk any more damage to my pelvic floor later in life. So to him, the only acceptable vaginal birth would be one with no tears whatsoever. I don't know if that's possible for me. I'm a pretty small person, and babies in my family are almost always over 8 or 9 lbs.
Anyway, I'm terrified of having a C-section. The thought of having major abdominal surgery just doesn't thrill me, to be honest. (Of course, the thought of another 4th degree tear is absolutely unacceptable to me...) I don't know whether to stick to my guns and go for the vaginal delivery, or just have the C-section. I want the best thing for the baby, of course, and for my own health as well, but I'm just really confused about what the best thing is.
Lori EDD 10-21