Help! Really scared this time.

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Help! Really scared this time.
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Fri, 04-25-2003 - 9:48am
I am so frustrated and scared! This is my second baby and I have had horrible complications with both pregnancies (I won't even go into all of them). Anyway, they are now saying that at almost 39 weeks, they also think this baby is huge. I had a 23 hour labor with 2 hrs of pushing with my dd who wasn't even 8 lbs at 36 weeks. It was very scarey at the end when her shoulders got hung and I had a nasty tear that took forever to heal. I just can't believe nobody notice how big this baby was getting until now. I gained 23 lbs. with my dd and have gained 28 this time. Of course she came at 36 weeks and I am now almost 39 weeks. My OB said that if I don't have him by Tuesday, to be at the hospital at 6:30 in the morning for an induction or section (my choice). She said basically, there is no way to know if I can deliver him without trying and agrees that getting the head out and not being able to deliver the shoulders is a very dangerous situation. I am so confused and mad! What would you do? I am really trying to avoid a bad tear again because I have first stage cervical cancer (sorry..I promised not to go into the complications), and we are supposed to do another biopsy at 6-8 weeks after delivery. She agreed today that if I have another 3rd or 4th degree episiotomy or tear, that that will delay my procedures to get this cervix crap cleared up. So far it hasn't spread beyong the top cell layer and we are hoping to just remove half the cervix. On the other hand, I am terrified of a c-section. Thanks if you have made it this far. Oh, and the Dr. on call for the weekend is the "rough old man" in the practice that everyone says to avoid at all costs because he is rough and routinely cuts huge episiotomys which actually I may need anyway. Any advice?

Michelle

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Fri, 04-25-2003 - 1:05pm
Big hugs for you! I'm not sure what to say, except that I wish you lots of luck. With your cervical cancer, I'm not sure you should have a c-section, as that also may prolong the treatment. I just don't know. Trust in your doctor, and here's wishing you an easy labor! Hugs!

Kelly

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Sat, 04-26-2003 - 12:10pm
Wow, you are going through a lot. Good luck.

I mostly lurk here, I had a c/s in Sept. I wanted to let you know that the drs kept telling me that my baby would be over 10 lbs if I made it to my due date. I let them induce me a week late because they kept scaring me about his size. He was born c/s (not due to size, but failure to descend after 3 1/2 hours of pushing). I just wanted to let you know that when they guess size, it is an educated guess, but a guess nonetheless and can be wrong.

Kimberly

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Sat, 04-26-2003 - 12:13pm
I can't believe that I forgot to put in his weight at birth! Sorry. He was 8 lbs, 9 oz.

Kimberly

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Sat, 04-26-2003 - 4:19pm
Michelle,

I am sorry to hear about all the complications you are dealing with in this pregnancy! I had a lot of problems with my first pregnancy (I'm on my third one now) and I remember how stressed and tired I was when it was over.

I agree with the previous post in that doctors are only guessing when it comes to figuring out the size of your baby. My OB induced me with my second child saying that I was "too small" to birth a large baby and because I wanted a "chance" at a VBAC. My first child was only 6pds 14oz and was two weeks early (because of my complications). Ends up, after inducing me and making a big fuss over the baby's size, my second baby was only 7pds 14oz. I also have seen on the birth stories on TV lots of doctors telling women they may have to have a C-section because of the size of the baby and ends up the babies are normal to small in size.

I can say that after having two C-sections, they are very difficult to recover from. It took me at least 6 months to start feeling somewhat normal. I am trying to avoid one with this baby unless it's an emergency. Having a midwife has helped a lot. I am thinking of getting a doula too. Maybe a doula would help in your situation (if it's not too late with you having to be at the hospital by Tuesday)?

Hope this helps you some. I would think second births would go easier than the first because your body is experienced, but I am not sure if that applies in your situation because of all the complications you mentioned.

Take care of yourself and I wish the best to you with your upcoming birth experience!

Mary Ann