I wish I would have known...

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I wish I would have known...
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Thu, 03-24-2011 - 12:30pm

If you've had a c-section in the past, share your BTDT advice and experience with moms-to-be that will be experiencing a c-section for the first time.

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Registered: 01-19-2008
Tue, 06-21-2011 - 9:25pm
The help is a great suggestion. Since I knew I was going to have a c-section, I already had help lined up for the first 2 weeks after the birth. My hubby stayed home the first week, and then I had family come stay and help the second week. I felt well enough during the second week to do some of the things, but I really gave myself permission to do NOTHING for the first 2 weeks at all, and then very very minimal until my 6 week PP check-up. It went by quick, and yes, things were a little behind, but I think it's worth it in the long run to allow yourself time to heal properly.
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Registered: 07-05-2005
Thu, 06-16-2011 - 12:11pm
Hi Manda,

Thanks so much for sharing your tips. My friend just had her first c-section after a vaginal birth last week and she said the very same thing you did- she didn't even read those chapters in the books! She just assumed she'd have another vaginal delivery and didn't even give a c-section a second thought while preparing.

It sounds like you have an awesome hubby and a great support system at home. It really is so important!

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 06-15-2011 - 12:01am
I wish I would have known... Well, everything! I had planned a natural birth and after a very comfortable pregnancy and lots of contractions in the final 2 weeks, I had not even considered the thought of a c-section. I wish I would have at least read the chapters on c-sections in the half-dozen books that I read! I had no idea what to expect. I had read all about natural birth, pain relief options, recovery and breastfeeding after a vaginal birth with the different pain relief options. I read NOTHING about c-sec.
The BEST thing you can do for yourself is have someone by your side who knows you well and knows what you want for yourself and your baby. My DH was absolutely wonderful. I had a hard recovery, emotionally and physically but he got me through it. For 2 weeks he stayed home and for many weeks after he kept up all the things I just couldn't do around the house. And he let me cry when I needed to. Whether your c-sec is planned or emergency like mine, do whatever you have to do to get good support at home. Hire someone if you have to!

Manda :)

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Mon, 06-13-2011 - 10:07am
Hi there,

Welcome to the board! I hope you'll share with us! What is it that you wish you had known about experiencing a c-section for the first time?

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Registered: 06-04-2011
Sat, 06-11-2011 - 10:26am

I Also wish i would have known 。。。

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Wed, 05-11-2011 - 12:31pm
Hi Jennifer!

You have some really great tips (love the tip about the belly binders!). I totally agree that every delivery is different and I think that people are so quick to chime in with the negative aspects. Like you said, just because one person had a bad experience doesn't mean that you will!

Thanks so much for sharing!

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Registered: 01-19-2008
Tue, 05-10-2011 - 12:03pm
I guess for me is that I wish I would've known that the experience CAN be positive. All I heard was the negative stuff, and it had me really scared going in to it. But, seriously, my experience was really good. It's like any birth, our experiences are all so different and just because one person's was bad doesn't mean yours will be.

Also I wanted to share that the belly binders are SOOOO worth it!! I had bought one not really knowing how well they would work. But, I noticed a big difference when I had it on vs. when I didn't! I was able to get up and walk around much easier with it on from the very first day!
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Wed, 04-27-2011 - 10:50am
Hi there!

Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing with us! I can understand your concern. Is there anything you are planning to differently if you have another child? Will you try for a VBAC or will you have another c-section?

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Registered: 04-26-2011
Tue, 04-26-2011 - 9:47pm
I wish I would have pushed to not have a c-section with baby #1 (failure to progress) or at least with baby #2 (repeat c-section for no apparent reason other than first baby was c/s)- only because I'd like to have a large family.