New Here: Thinking about having another baby

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Registered: 03-19-2004
New Here: Thinking about having another baby
Tue, 11-15-2011 - 11:25pm


My name is Tina, I'm 39 yrs old, I have 3 boys already, thinking about having another baby but I had 2 c-sections following a blood transfusion, I'm a little afraid. But I'm thinking if it's what I really want to go through again,



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Registered: 01-19-2008
Wed, 11-16-2011 - 10:53am

What a tough decision, isn't it?! I was kind of where you are, a little over a year ago. I had 3 boys, but really wanted to experience a girl too. I had difficult deliveries, and really bad post partum hemmorhage with them. The only difference is that I hadn't had any c-sections to that point.

For me, it was a very scary decision, and took a real leap of faith. Ultimately, I knew I wouldn't be happy if I didn't at least try one more time. And so we threw caution to the wind, and were finally blessed with our first and only sweet baby girl this past March. I wouldn't change a thing!!

I think you should definitely discuss your concerns with your doctor. You do have extra factors in your decision that I didn't have (prior c-section and maternal age). Discuss everything with your husband, and then ultimately follow your heart. The way I look at it, is we only get one shot at this life, and if there is something that you REALLY want to do/experience then you have to try for it while you can. And I KNEW, in my crossroads, my heart would never be settled if I didn't have one more baby. (Though I promised myself, and my hubby, that we would stop at 4 regardless!!)

Big (((HUGS))) to you!! I will pray that you are led to make the right decision for you and your family. And that you will be filled with happiness and peace either way!! GL!!!