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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 8:14pm

Hi ladies. I'm new to the message board. I had an emergency

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Registered: 07-21-2008
In reply to: ryley_elizabeth
Wed, 10-29-2008 - 10:35pm

Hello...I am sorry to hear that.

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Registered: 01-23-2007
In reply to: ryley_elizabeth
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 4:22pm

Thank you. I'm glad to hear that it isn't silly to feel bad about my birth experience. I am being treated for PPD. I hope in time I will feel better about my birth experience. I know that next time I will have another c-section but I hope that because it will be scheduled I will have time to accept this method of giving birth.


Ryley

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In reply to: ryley_elizabeth
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 12:29am

Welcome to the board and congrats on your recent birth. I am so very sorry to hear that the birth did not go as you had wanted it to and you are having a difficult time dealing with having had a surgical birth. This is a very real and common reaction to a unexpected surgical birth. Many women feel robbed like they evn did somthing wrong. I would highly encourage you to talk out your feelings and discuss your fears with not only your doctor but with your family as well.

I would also encourage you to visit the negative birth experience board, you may find alot of support on that board as well as here.

here is the link...
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-ppnegbirth/start

also check in with the ppd board as well you may find extra support there as well....
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-ppppd/start

please feel free to make yourself at home here and let us know if there is anything else we can help with.

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Registered: 08-23-2005
In reply to: ryley_elizabeth
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 5:49am

Hi Heidi and Welcome!


I think it's totally normal for (almost) every Mom who delivers unexpectedly by C section to go through a grieving process of some sort. I have had 2 sections and I'm currently planning my third and there are still days when I'm bummed out by the fact that I will never deliver a baby vaginally - the "normal" way - KWIM? In the end, though, I think that over time you will find a way to come to peace with your birth experience - for me, I realize that babies come into this world one of two ways

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Registered: 07-21-2008
In reply to: ryley_elizabeth
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 9:49am

Hello again...I am glad to hear that you are getting some help.

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Registered: 01-23-2007
In reply to: ryley_elizabeth
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 1:49pm

Thanks ladies. I appreciate your posts more than you know. I'm glad to hear that it is normal to go through a grieving process. When things went south during my delivery I just wanted my baby girl to be born and I didn't care how she got here. I was really scared and I knew something was wrong and they needed to get her out very quickly. I guess I was just surprised when after 4 weeks I started to feel negatively about the section. I'm going to talk to my doctor about it and hopefully get some reassurance that I didn't do anything to cause my trouble during delivery. I look forward to reading about postive c-section experiences on this board so that I can feel better about my own and look forward to giving birth this way next time. Thanks again.