Other's attitudes toward c/s

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Other's attitudes toward c/s
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Sat, 03-21-2009 - 9:04am

Okay - this isn't really a concern or anything - except that emotionally it could be an issue for some people as it was for me.


I'm wondering what's up with the attitudes people have toward c/s birthing.


Since my c/s is planned, and I 'm very excited about it, I get a lot of odd reaction when I tell people.

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Sat, 03-21-2009 - 3:40pm

I do find it very interesting that people have such strong opinions about how to birth babies. I believe that every mother should be educated when she makes her choice, but ultimately it is her choice and her choice alone based upon her medical history and preferences.


For me, while I would have preferred to birth my babies vaginally, I'm now at a point where I've had 3 C sections and it is what it is. My last birth was a very positive C section experience.


I do wish that people would stop "looking down" on C sections - especially when it's a very educated choice that a Mom is making for herself and for her baby.

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Sun, 03-22-2009 - 5:27am

You said this in another thread, but I think my reply is more appropriate here.

>> I get kind of tired of the whole philosophy that natural is best, that it how a woman is supposed to give birth, that you'll feel empowered by doing it......it's not the best choice for every woman. <<

Gosh, THANK YOU for saying this! For some of us, leaving it up to nature would mean we and/or our babies would have serious problems or be dead. I understand trying to pep talk women with the "you're made to do this!" stuff, but if it's not something you can or want to do, it doesn't sound the same at all.

People whisper about cesareans because if you're not doing it the natural way, then there must be a problem, and if there's a problem… I guess it should be embarassing??? I can see why people would be concerned, as they would be when any surgery is being done, but they shouldn't lose sight of the fact that a baby is being born! That's exciting and wonderful!

When people tell me they're "sorry" I had a cesarean, I say, "I'm not! I'm so glad modern medicine made Dagmar's birth possible!" Yeah, I wanted a vaginal birth, but I wanted to live and have a living baby more. And it doesn't have to be a life or death thing! We can be glad that the technology exists to make it an option for all kinds of reasons. :)

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Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:24am
Lorry - that is a really good point! With my babies - I pushed for hours and they weren't coming out! (4 hours with my first and a couple with my second until he had major decelerations and the docs were really worried!) It's not like I was medicated either... it was completely unmedicated and I tried every position in the world. I've often wondered if it was several hundred years ago... if we would have both died... and the answer is probably yes! So, Thank goodness that we have the option!
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Mon, 03-23-2009 - 2:21pm

I know exactly what you are saying.

 

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Tue, 03-24-2009 - 12:50am

I think I posted this above, but I only got to 8 cm. But I have so many people that have medical knowledge that have told me, honey you wouldn't have been alive 100 years ago.


For some reason, I think people automatically assume that we all haven't tried to give birth vaginally.


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Tue, 03-24-2009 - 5:36am
For some reason, I think people automatically assume that we all haven't tried to give birth vaginally.

Exactly. Either we are "too posh to push" or we are ignorant. I know there are cases where that happens but that doesn't mean it's always the case!



So many of my friends have said that sex got painful for them after the birth.

I had this problem despite having a cesarean anyway.



I got inspired to make a new blinkie.

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Tue, 03-24-2009 - 10:18am

I like that blinkie.


I thought I had posted all my reasons above. Maybe I didn't. Oh well.


The blinkie is still neat.


If I had one clue about how to do the blinkie thing I would definitely use that one.

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Tue, 03-24-2009 - 11:00am
I can't make blinkies...so I hope that you don't mind that I

 

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Tue, 03-24-2009 - 2:49pm
Don't mind at all, the more the merrier!
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Wed, 03-25-2009 - 8:56am

Well, I have had 5 and I think c-sections are horrible and dangerous and that no one should CHOOSE to have one. But, then, that's just me. I can't say why anyone else feels that way....

For the most part the attitudes I face is that c-sections are totally safe and that no one gets a 'badge' for having a baby the normal way. They don't understand why I am completely against elective c-sections and I believe the US should be like Europe- C-sections should only be done when there is a medical indication, otherwise VBACs should be the standard method of post cesarean delivery.

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