Saying Hi!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-25-2013
Saying Hi!
Tue, 08-13-2013 - 10:39am

Hey everyone,

I wanted to stop in and say hello.  I gave birth to my second child in June, via c-section.  I had been hoping for a VBAC but it didn't happen.  

I'm wondering- did anyone feel some sadness after having their c-section?  I'm not sure if it was because I was hoping for a VBAC so badly or what, but I'm having a hard time wrapping my brain around the fact that I had to have a second c-section. I just feel like I missed out on something.  Am I alone in this feeling?

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Tue, 08-27-2013 - 9:57am

Welcome to the board and congratulations on your recent birth!  How's baby doing?

I know the ladies here will have some great feedback to share with you. We are so glad that you've found the board! 

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Registered: 01-19-2008
Thu, 08-29-2013 - 9:29am

WELCOME and CONGRATULATIONS on your new baby!!

I'm sorry that the birth didn't go as you had planned.  I actually CHOSE my c-section after horrible and traumatic vaginal birth experiences, so I can't relate totally to what you are experiencing.  But, I can relate to being extremely disappointed with your birth experience.  My first delivery was very tough, and something I never, ever, ever wanted to experience again.  And when my 3rd delivery mirrored so much of the bad points of my first one, I just sobbed uncontrollably after that delivery.  All these things I did not want to experience happened all over again.  :(

That's why with my 4th I just went with a planned c-section, so I wouldn't have to face those fears again.  And thankfully for me, my c-section experience was really good, and so much better than what I had been through with any of my vaginal deliveries.

I wish I had more help for you to your particular situation, but I know that it is a common thing to feel.  I hope someone else will jump in with their experiences for you too!

(((HUGS))) Praying that you heal quickly, and that you and your baby will be the picture of health from here on out!!