Sex and c-sectioned tummy

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Registered: 02-13-2010
Sex and c-sectioned tummy
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Sun, 02-14-2010 - 10:08am

Hello, all...so happy to have found this site!

I just had my second c-section four months ago. My first was an emergency in September 2007, and I was warned ot to VBAC (a whole other story) so here I am.

While I was being stitched up by the Doctor after my emergency section he said condescendingly, "Now don't worry, dear, only your husband will see the scar..." Here I am thinking, yeah exactly..HE WILL SEE IT...

After I realized, it wasn't the scar that bothered me but the FRIGHTENING FLAP of skin that fell over it (ugh!). After my second it got worse. It reminds me of old-man tummy, and has become a serious source of embarrassment. I have been told to a) get plastic surgery or b) get over it and "love" my PP body. Can't afford a and can't bring myself to feel b.

Does anyone else feel this way? Do others insist on the lights off or strategically place the sheet around their stomachs? This is affecting my intimacy with my husband...I just wanted to see if this affects anyone else and to what degree...

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Registered: 02-26-2008
Sun, 02-14-2010 - 2:28pm

I have to say I feel this way NOW 2 years after c-section more than I did more immediately after my c-section. Before I got pregnant with my twins, I was having infertility issues, which caused me to gain 40 lbs. I hated my new rounder body..then I was pregnant and added 25 more lbs...was 212 when I delivered. Within 2 months, I was down to 170 (12 lbs lighter than when I had found out I was having twins) so I actually felt great about my body loose skin and all...I had lost SO much girth, that I felt sexy...and my husband made me feel sexy. Later, I started getting self conscious, but my DH turned on all the lights when I started getting "shy" and looked me in the eye and said, "you're beautiful.." I've chosen to believe what he sees (rather than the reality that I am 13 weeks 3rd pregnancy in 4 years, stretch marks, big belly, saggy boobs)

The only hope I can give you is that your body will bounce back if you exercise, eat right, etc, but give yourself time. It took your body 40 weeks to stretch and grow, you can't expect for it to rebound right away. I've heard doctors it takes your body a full year to get back to normal function...not even "look normal" but to have your strength and everything back. I'm sure your husband thinks you are the sexiest, most beautiful woman in the room....


Sarah
Wife to Kevin
Step-mom to Justin (11)
Mom to twins Grace and Isabelle (3)and Boyd (21months)
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Registered: 03-18-2009
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 8:31pm

I do think that the body changes after pregnancy C section or not... and it's a tough transition. I think that Sarah said it perfectly that you're body will bounce back with exercise and time, but you have to be gentle with yourself in the transition.


If you have the stamina for diet, exercise and ab work and just keep it up, i think you will see a response!!


Hang in there!!

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Registered: 11-11-2007
Thu, 03-04-2010 - 1:54pm

Well I had a serious-looking 'belly apron' after my cesarean. Just now at 18 months it's starting to go down a bit, my belly button is starting to go in too. I believe the pouch stays there, it just gets smaller if you exercise and probably at that point you're the only one that'll notice it.

Our sex life changed a lot after the baby. My husband is loving all the extra curves I have. It makes me feel special and I don't get too embarrassed when it's during the day or with the lights on. I don't know why b/c I would like to lose my medium sized belly pouch and I'm always complaining. The best thing about my post partum body are my breasts. After breastfeeding I went from a size B to C+/D. I haven't weaned yet so I don't know if they'll stay that way but that's the only part of my body I like.

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