Tuesday Talk: Did you fear dying in childbirth?

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Tuesday Talk: Did you fear dying in childbirth?
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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 9:08pm
Before, during, or after your delivery? Be they irrational fears, or fears due to traumatic events during your delivery and recovery, did you ever fear that you might actually die from childbirth? Do you think childbirth, and particularly c-section deliveries are taken seriously enough these days?
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 02-17-2012 - 1:50pm
Wait. It compared a c section to having a tooth pulled?!?! Oh yeah, I can see how that's pretty much the same thing. NOT! Although I did not have actual pain during the section. It just felt like I was being ripped in half with all the pulling and jerking and shaking they were doing. It was actually unnerving knowing how I was being thrashed around and not feeling any pain. I guess I could compare it to having a tooth pulled-If that tooth weighed over 8 pounds and took a whole team of people to wrestle it out of me.

Manda :)

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Fri, 02-17-2012 - 11:04am

Something like a year after the c-section I ran across an article that claimed "You will have sensation, but no pain, like a tooth being pulled out with novocaine" and damn near lost it just sitting there. I had a perfectly good tooth extraction with novocaine; the c-section (where the doctor swore I was just feeling "pressure" and for a while I almost believed it despite knowing I was VERY unhappy with the "pressure" ) was nothing like that.

Cthulu Crochet

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Fri, 02-17-2012 - 11:01am

By this point, I'd be more afraid of an induction than a c-section (I've never had one; I survived the failed epi and found the no-med VBAC rather easy).

Cthulu Crochet

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Wed, 02-15-2012 - 6:44pm
Yeah, I came to the conclusion if that WAS pressure, it was the most PAINFUL pressure that I could ever imagine!! I mean, really. Who cares what you call it at that point!! LOL

I'm serious when I say, I can't even go back and think about that experience. It was awful!! And I HATE that that is how I feel about my first child's birth!!

And Holly, I think mouth pain is horrible too!! We talked about that before, I know. I had a tooth pulled and ended up with dry socket!! Oh my, misery!!! *shudder*

The only person who can really measure the pain of something is the one going through it!!
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Wed, 02-15-2012 - 6:39pm
Thank you for saying that, Manda!

I feel like that too, but I do feel sensitive still that people judge me for my choice without really understanding my prior experiences. I certainly don't condone people who have never tried a vaginal delivery to go that route though!! I mean, in MOST cases it really IS much easier all around!! ETA: I re-read this, and wasn't sure if my point came across correctly here. I think if people haven't had a baby at all, they shouldn't just choose a c-section just to get out of a vaginal delivery without a really valid reason why. I had a friend that seriously said she wanted a c-section for her first baby cause she was "too shy" to have a vaginal delivery! She didn't want people to "see" her down there! I assured her by that time, she'd be over that and wouldn't care who saw what if they could just get that baby out!! LOL Sadly, she went through a horrible induction that lasted many hours, spent 3-4 hours pushing, and still ended up delivering her baby by c-section. :(
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Wed, 02-15-2012 - 3:05pm
Speaking of mouth pain, I had my wisdom teeth removed when I was 21. I only had two of them, but they were full bony impacted so they had to put me under and take some of my jaw with it (ouch!). I got dry socket, which is the worst thing ever. I seriously would go through my two c-sections again before I'd deal with that again.




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Wed, 02-15-2012 - 2:23pm
I can't imagine going through either of your experiences! I've been on several birth/vbac boards lately with complaints of male drs saying idiotic things about the whole birth experience. I know women can be just as harsh sometimes though and medical professionals can begin to feel a little too powerful and righteous. It does make it very difficult to overcome your fears when someone has disrespected you and de-valued you to that extent. When I was 10, on my first ever trip to the dentist (we had no insurance, so only went for emergencies), he filled 5 teeth while I cried that it still hurt. He told me I wasn't feeling pain, just "pressure." Funny how drs always call it "just a little pressure." When I hear that phrase, I brace myself because it always means PAIN. Anyway, I'm 29 now and still pop a vicodin to dull the pain and my nerves when I go to the dentist. My mom and I both have the same problem with not numbing completely. She actually passed out in the chair before the dentist believed she was in pain. Now I know that mouth pain is unbearable, but I could not imagine an experience like that involving my hoohah! Talk about needing therapy...

Manda :)

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Wed, 02-15-2012 - 11:20am
Jennifer, you are the woman for whom "optional" c sections are meant for! It makes complete sense as you have a history of traumatic deliveries and it really does mean a risk for your and your baby's life. It is important that women can choose a section in a position like yours.

Manda :)

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Registered: 07-21-1998
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 8:27pm

And here I thought I wasn't believed because I wasn't screaming.

Actually, I figured after a similar experience, I'd rather feel pain and have everybody know it than to be told to shut up because I had the nice drugs & nothing could be wrong. I was right; that was a lot better.

Cthulu Crochet

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Mon, 02-13-2012 - 6:11pm
That was exactly what was going on there, CA_Dreamer!! The nurses kept trying to tell the doc that the epidural wasn't working as I was screaming out of my mind from the pain (this was all the way back to the pushing too), but he never tried to help by offering anything else. He only yelled at me to "get control of myself!" :( (That was the only baby of mine he delivered too, btw!)

Because my first birth did go so bad, it ruined my whole perspective about what birth could be. I couldn't trust a completely natural experience after that because I had endured so much pain from a medicated one. All I could think is that if it was that bad WITH medications, I don't even want to find out how bad it would be without!

Seriously, those stitches--I can't even think about though cause it was horrific!!
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