Tuesday Talk: Did you feel like you "gave birth"?

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Tuesday Talk: Did you feel like you "gave birth"?
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Tue, 02-14-2012 - 6:42pm
Even though you delivered by c-section, did you still "feel" like you gave birth (which you obviously did), or did the surgical aspect disconnect you from the experience?
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Registered: 03-31-2003
We do have another hospital in town. Any other hospital would be a minimum 1 hr drive to another town. This other hospital is the "nicer" one since it is private. I know the l&d nurses tend to be vbac friendly, which is important. I'm planning on being a big ol pain in the butt next time around. I'll have a written list of what I want for myself, as well as a seperate list of what I want for my baby, which I will be hounding the nurses and drs with. Also, I will be asking specifically which pedi is available while I'm there to ensure I don't end up with the same one. Our town is small and its not uncommon for drs to work both hospitals, so I want to be sure we don't get stuck with her again.

Manda :)

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Do you have a choice of another hospital for your subsequent children? I was moving before I got pregnant with #2, so I actually researched and handpicked the practice and hospital I wanted to deliver at.




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Yeah, this hospital, or more specifically, that pedi sucked at the whole attachment/bonding/breastfeeding/healthy baby connection thing. Pissed me off that all he needed was some boob and it was "against policy" to allow a baby with feeding tube and oxygen to be BFed. I did however have a good lactation consultant from my MW's practice come see me each day and a nurse who helped me learn to pump for him. My friend had a different experience with her nurse though. Same hospital, easy, natural delivery. As she was working at getting baby latched on, the nurse kept pushing her to give him a bottle of formula instead. My friend knew what to do though and was patiently working with her baby when the nurse walked up and SQUIRTED formula in his mouth while she was trying to get him to latch! She was asked (not politely) to leave the room.

Manda :)

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I guess I can kinda say the same. I think I might have been a mushroom cloud of anger if that had happened to me. I was not particularly happy with the bf help I got at my first hospital. So I chose for my second hospital one with a baby friendly designation. So then when I really needed to supplement him with formula (I hated that but had no realistic alternatives), I had to fight for it but at least they weren't trying to foist it upon me.




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I can't imagine what the mag must have been like for you, Holly. I guess I can count myself lucky that I didn't have to go through anything like that.

Manda :)

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Holly, to be more specific, my MW told the pedi that I was breastfeeding, so to give the baby to me asap. Her reply was that "it ain't happening." She said he had fluid in his lungs and needed xrays. Well, she whisked him away and to the nicu. I found out in recovery that's his chest was clear but they decided to do blood tests ( never told me why they did that) and his blood sugar was off and platelets were off, temp was unstable and oxygen levels low. They started antibiotics, oxygen, fluids, feeding tube of formula. I was not allowed to hold him and had to fight my nurse to even be taken to see him was not allowed to BF for 2 days. Each of his problems began to resolve when I held him the next day and everything resolved completely the day after that when we finally BFed. I was pissed that all those interventions happened without so much as telling me about them. They were not life saving as he was essentially "doing fine" according to the nurse. I had also specifically said no formula and ky MW had told the pedi in my presence, the same.

Manda :)

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Awwww! He is such a sweetheart!!!
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I had that disconnect with my first, Jennifer. Inside, my daughter was crazy active all the way to the end of the pregnancy. Outside, she was very sleepy and mellow. My son was very different. He was equally active (I had an anterior placenta so I didn't feel it quite so much), but he was always pressing out in the same place. I know now that he was always stretching out his long legs in the same place. It was clear that he was the same baby because he would lay upright with his upper body on my chest and then stand up with his legs. Even at 1-2 days old he did this.




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I can understand the "adopted" baby feeling too, and that was, I guess, the disconnect I worried about by just walking in at a scheduled time, having surgery, and then being handed a baby and being told it had just came out of me.

I did have a little disconnect from my last baby for a bit for a whole different reason though. I waited to find out the gender till the delivery, and I knew what my others were before delivery, so it took me a while to really get used to my baby actually having an actual gender cause up till then every time I planned for or thought about the baby, it was gender neutral. That part affected me much different than I had expected it to, and I did feel for a while like I was taking care of someone else's baby. I loved her, for sure, but she did seem so foreign to me too! I don't feel that way at all now though!! That is MY baby girl! :)
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Not ever going through it again is a HUGE plus!! I knew going in to my last delivery I was OVER the whole birth experience, and just wished so bad there was an option of still getting that baby out without having to go thru birth of any kind! LOL Obviously there wasn't, but I too am VERY glad I will never go thru another delivery now!! I will always be sad to never experience pregnancy or a new baby again, but I won't miss going thru another delivery one bit!!! LOL
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