Tuesday Talk: How did your SO do during the c-section?

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Registered: 01-19-2008
Tuesday Talk: How did your SO do during the c-section?
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Tue, 08-16-2011 - 9:27am

Was he supportive, nervous, or scared?

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Registered: 09-23-2010

I wasn't too suprised with how my DH reacted. He was all gung-ho about the first birth and loves telling people (anyone, really, lol) about the miracle of seeing the head coming out, etc. *I'm* the squeamish one, so child birth is not beautiful to me, lol. I get the whole miracle thing, but the process of the actual delivery, it's a bit much for me.

He didn't see anything during the delivery although I don't know if he saw them closing me up because he got up to be with the baby and take photos. We actually lucked out on that front with a c-section because in the L&D rooms you're not permitted to take photos. In the OR the nurse told him as long as he stayed on a specific side and didn't take any photos of people, he was good to go. So we got a ton of photos - and thankfully he had upgraded to an iphone 4 so they are really good photos. Anyway, I was really sleepy during the surgery. Between the cold room and the drugs I could barely keep my eyes opened. He held my hand and made sure that the doctors knew if something was wrong (like when the curtain started to fall, lol). But as soon as that baby was born, man, he dropped me like a hot potato, lol!

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Registered: 01-19-2008
ubergeek wrote:

But as soon as that baby was born, man, he dropped me like a hot potato, lol!


LOL

I also don't see birth as "beautiful" as some people describe it!

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My dh just HATES the idea of birth no matter how it's done.

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Registered: 06-17-2007

Well, he was understandably nervous and worried. But that had much more to do with my condition (pre-e) and the circumstances of my c-section delivery (cord prolapse in the first, premature delivery in the second) than it did with the surgery itself. DH and I are veterans of surgery, the idea of it is not exactly comfortable but not freaky as it is for other people. So I think for him the worry was in waiting to be called back, and then waiting to see me. The second time he had to wait to see me for four hours because he was with Francis, who was in the nursery for a little while so they could monitor his breathing and temperature.




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Registered: 03-31-2003
He was fantastic! I was a wreck and his mom pulled him aside and told him to toughen up for me and although I don't think he necessarily needed her to do that, he sure was strong! He stayed positive and supportive through the whole thing, beginning to end. I did see a picture of him later, standing in the hallway, holding up the footprints and he had this look of relief and there were tears in his eyes. I never saw that part of him during the surgery. Just Mr. Strong with a few tears of excitment when we heard those first cries. I needed him to be that way though. Nothing went according to our plan, but you'd never know it by the way he acted. He was just perfect. :)

Manda :)