Tuesday Talk: How do you feel when...

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Tuesday Talk: How do you feel when...
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Tue, 09-20-2011 - 9:08am

people comment about women who've had all natural deliveries as "rockstars", and then they give the look of pity to people who've had a c-section?

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Tue, 09-20-2011 - 1:17pm

I've had one of each.

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Tue, 09-20-2011 - 2:12pm
"The biggest issue men have with each other is whose junk is bigger."
That's freakin hilarious! And true! Why do women have to find so many ways to bash each other?

I like your robot reference though. I mean, for me, I wanted to do the all natural thing but I did not have a choice but in the end I still got a baby. I guess what bothered me was the part about not having a choice. And not having a choice in the care my baby received.

Now, back on topic... I guess I haven't noticed the pity look for women with c/s. I have heard several comments about "oh wasn't it so much easier. None of that labor pain..." One girl even told me (while preggo and planning my natural birth) that I should just go for a c/s and "have them cut that baby out and you don't have to do any of the work." I don't really know if my c/s experience was normal or not but there's no way in he11 that I would CHOOSE to do that to myself, my baby or my family! Especially since we had no indication that anything would go wrong. Now for women who do have an indication that vaginal delivery is not a good option, then go ahead and make that decision ahead of time. Anyhow, I just get irritated at people (even women) who think that having major abdominal surgery is an "easy" option. I think any woman who has had a baby is a rockstar! ESPECIALLY one who has had a c/s! I knew a girl who went back to work (just for the last 3 days of the school year) just 2 weeks after her c/s. I can't imagine the strength that must have taken.

Manda :)

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Tue, 09-20-2011 - 3:34pm

I'm glad you guys are seeing it the way that I do too.

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Thu, 09-22-2011 - 9:10am

Ugh - posting issues on my part. I'm using after the deadline in chrome and it's not behaving. :/

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Thu, 09-22-2011 - 9:11am
mandak78 wrote:
"The biggest issue men have with each other is whose junk is bigger."
That's freakin hilarious! And true! Why do women have to find so many ways to bash each other?

I like your robot reference though. I mean, for me, I wanted to do the all natural thing but I did not have a choice but in the end I still got a baby. I guess what bothered me was the part about not having a choice. And not having a choice in the care my baby received.

Now, back on topic... I guess I haven't noticed the pity look for women with c/s. I have heard several comments about "oh wasn't it so much easier. None of that labor pain..." One girl even told me (while preggo and planning my natural birth) that I should just go for a c/s and "have them cut that baby out and you don't have to do any of the work." I don't really know if my c/s experience was normal or not but there's no way in he11 that I would CHOOSE to do that to myself, my baby or my family! Especially since we had no indication that anything would go wrong. Now for women who do have an indication that vaginal delivery is not a good option, then go ahead and make that decision ahead of time. Anyhow, I just get irritated at people (even women) who think that having major abdominal surgery is an "easy" option. I think any woman who has had a baby is a rockstar! ESPECIALLY one who has had a c/s! I knew a girl who went back to work (just for the last 3 days of the school year) just 2 weeks after her c/s. I can't imagine the strength that must have taken.

Men and their junk, right? LOL

It aggravates me with the scheduling. It's one thing to schedule (like I did) because of an issue (such as a health issue or a breech baby). It's another to do it for timing.

And I agree, there is so much more to it than just cutting the baby out! For one, you never know how you'll react to the drugs used (I had a bad experience with that!). And the recovery could go badly (hello, on top of a section I ended up with pre-eclampsia AFTERWARDS, lol). Yes, if you just had the baby cut out of you and went on your merry little way, then ok. But I wouldn't choose it over a vaginal delivery just because.

I work from home full-time and went back to work after a week off. It's tough. I can't imagine having to walk around. (Although, my c-section recovery was pretty good in the walking aspect. It was the swollen Fred Flintstone feet from pre-e that ruined it all for me.)

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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 12:57pm
I had the Flintstone feet too! But it only lasted about a week. I was sooo swollen all over. I kinda think it was from all the fluids they pumped into me. About 8 hrs in to the induction I started swelling and had to take my wedding ring off for the first time in my pregnancy. The swelling just got worse and worse for about 4 days, then hung around for another few days before it started to go down. I hate to see myself in pictures from that week. So has your pre-e resolved now? I had high bp (dr never officially said it was pre-e) but from the moment he was born, it's been normal. I had occasional high bp before getting preg though.

Manda :)

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Tue, 09-27-2011 - 7:04pm

I'm going tomorrow for another check-up. I didn't have high BP while pregnant. Just one of those oddities that seems to love me. ;)

I'm hoping that it's gone down or has leveled off as I'd really not like to increase my meds (they are currently low doses).