TUESDAY TALK~9/6 Did having a c-section...

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Registered: 01-19-2008
TUESDAY TALK~9/6 Did having a c-section...
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Tue, 09-06-2011 - 9:48am

change your decisions about the size your family would be?

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Registered: 01-19-2008
Tue, 09-06-2011 - 10:55am
I don't think having a c-section this time changed things for me because I was going to get a tubal no matter how I delivered this time. But, I do see now, that by NOT having a c-section with my first delivery it probably opened the door for me to be able have 4 kids like I now have.

For so long, I thought, as well as most of the people who were there during the time of my first delivery that I would have been better off if they had just done a c-section then. But, now I can appreciate at least one part of having to go through such a traumatic vaginal delivery with him because I do feel like that my choice to have 4 kids (or more if I really desired) would have been limited if I had delivered by c-section with my very first baby. There's no way to know for sure, of course, but I am certain that going for 4 c-sections would have probably been pushing the limits and I would have probably been advised not to.

And, of course, having c-sections does set you up for more risks in subsequent pregnancies like placental accreta which is actually quite terrifying when you think about it! So, I am thankful that the choice was mine, even though that first vaginal delivery was so hard on me at the time. And I'm really sorry if anyone else felt like their choice of family size got limited because of the way their baby was born.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 09-06-2011 - 10:32pm
Well, not so far. If I get a VBAC next time, I could see myself possibly wanting a 3rd baby after that but if I have a repeat c/s, I don't think I'll handle another. So this particular c/s has not changed my decision, but the next birth possibly could. My curiosity about having 3 kids hopefully will make a VBAC more accessible with my drs.

Manda :)

Community Leader
Registered: 01-19-2008
Wed, 09-07-2011 - 12:30pm
I think I always knew I wanted 3, but never dreamed of having 4! Glad we went for it though, even though some days are really tough! GL!! I REALLY hope you get your VBAC!!
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