Wanted VBAC. 1-C. Disappointed (M)

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Wanted VBAC. 1-C. Disappointed (M)
Mon, 04-07-2003 - 2:55pm
Does anyone else feel this way. I know I am crazy for wanting to go "natural". I understand it is best for baby and me. DD was breech and so is DS (now). Recommended to go C. I feel a little cheated. I really wanted to experience the whole birthing thing. Am I the only one? Am I crazy?

Kim EDD 6/14. Scheduled C 6/4

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Mon, 04-21-2003 - 2:36pm
you're not crazy at all! Having my vbac really helped me heal from that whole "wanting a vaginal birth thing, and if you end up with another c/s, I can see how you would be disappointed. (although it seems early to give up hope on a turning baby if you aren't due for another almost 2 months-- TURN baby!! LOL I do know some turn really late- hopefully yours will)

Good luck with what happens and it's not crazy or bad at all, imo, to be disappointed when a birth doesn't turn out the way you had planned. You can be disappointed and still love your baby just as much! ((HUGS))


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-08-2003 - 8:24pm
Yes I undestand how you feel. see my post under introduction. I think our feelings are normal. I have several of my friends having wonderful home birth experiences and although I don't think I could go that far, I do fantasize about vaginal birth at times. My 1st c/s was due to breech also but this baby is in perfect birthing position which makes it even more ... hard to swallow.


sybil edd 5-30 c/s around 38w

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 04-07-2003 - 3:39pm
Big hugs! No, you are not the only one! The feeling of disappointment is very common. Even after listening to my OB talk about my situation and all the risks involved, and once my second c-section was scheduled, I still felt left out. I also feel disappointed sometimes when I hear about how my friends have had these wonderful, easy vaginal births.

The best thing that helped me get over my disappointment was to enjoy my children. I realize that not long ago, women like myself would not have survived childbirth without a c-section. It helps that I'm also very optimistic.

You're feelings of disappointment are very normal, and don't try to ignore it. In time it won't matter as much, and you will have beautiful children as a result. Best wishes to you!