What would you do?

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Registered: 01-19-2009
What would you do?
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 9:18am

Hi gals. I had a c-section in December 2007 after 48 hours of contractions, 12 hours on a Pitocin drip, a failed epidural after 1 1/2 hours of trying to get it & a big "mistake" made while I was on the drip telling me I was 7cm when I was really only 1 cm (don't ask me how that is possible).

Anyway, I am pregnant with number 2 & I have been really stressed out about what to do. Do I go for the repeat section (which means I won't be able to lift my 17 month old ds1 for about 6 weeks & will have to have my mother come & stay with me). Or...do I try for a VBAC & take the risk of receiving poor care again & feeling "victimized."

I know a VBAC is supposedly better for me but I am so scared of nurses & doctors not listening to me. I think if it was not for the recovery time & having a busy boy who will be 17 months, I would choose the section. I don't want to inconvenience my mother (even though she has agreed to come & stay with me as long as needed). I think about this while I lay in bed at night & it causes me anxiety. I see the Obs for the 1st time tomorrow (at 23 weeks) and I know the conversation is going to come up.

I know no one can make the decision for me. If you chose a repeat C...are you happy with your decision? I'm scared I don't have the fight in me to push for a VBAC & it would only work if everyone around me was super supportive.

Thanks for listening,


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Registered: 08-23-2005
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 1:45pm

Becky -

Welcome and I'm sorry that you're experiencing so much concern over this that it's keeping you up at night! I just had my 3rd C section. The first was unplanned and occured after 4 hours of unmedicated pushing and no baby. The second was a failed VBAC attempt - same scenario - no baby after pushing and he had some significant decelerations... and the third one was scheduled.

A couple thoughts for you - If you are considering a repeat C section, one of the things you need to keep in mind is how many kids you want. If you're thinking that you want a bunch more, it's probably best to try for that VBAC due to the increased risk of high order C sections. 2) Second births are typically easier and faster than first births... so all that "hard work" that you went through with the first one will pay off when you're laboring with the next one. Chances are that you won't have the long, long labor that you previously experienced. 3) Overall, I think you are right that your recovery will be much quicker with a VBAC, however, I don't think that it will be as horrible as you are thinking. Remember that a scheduled section is a much easier recovery b/c you didn't go through the labor process. I have a 19 month old at home and I was pretty much doing everything (climbing stairs, picking him up occasionally, etc.) by 2 weeks PP. Of course it's nice to have help!! But, it is managable before your 6 weeks are up.

Have you thought about hiring a Doula? I found mine to be a great advocate for me during my first and second births and they can be great when you're concerned about the "doctors and nurses listening to you." Finding someone you trust is critical.

Also - have you cross posted on the VBAC board? I think the ladies over there might have some other thoughts for you as well.

Good luck with your decision and with whatever you decide!