When to have visitors after C/S?

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Registered: 06-23-2009
When to have visitors after C/S?
Tue, 06-23-2009 - 12:10pm
I'm having a scheduled C/S for #1 in a few weeks. As a medical professional, I'm quite familiar with post-op recovery and pain. I'd like to ask visitors to come by the day after, in order to give me a chance to regroup and for my husband and I to meet our new little critter. We're planning to have the grandparents there that day, but limiting siblings, aunts, uncles, etc.
Any suggestions on tactfully spreading the word to relatives so feelings don't get hurt? Or how to handle guests who don't take the hint? :)
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Registered: 03-18-2009
Tue, 06-23-2009 - 8:59pm

Hmmm... that's an interesting question. You know, I'm not sure I have a good answer for you. With my first, I was expecting a vaginal birth and expecting a healthy baby (normal pregnancy, no complications, no history of any issues in our family) and she was born by C section and very, very sick. Because she went straight to the NICU we basically didn't have any visitors except those that we specifically invited.

With #2 we were nervous and told everyone that we would let them know when we were home and that we'd love visitors at that time!

#3 was also

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Registered: 06-23-2009
Wed, 06-24-2009 - 10:40am

I think it's wonderful that you're planning on having a family bonding (and mommy-recovery!) period! I wish I'd have had the foresight to do that with mine, although in all fairness, I don't usually mind visitors. But all my visitors were always family (no friends unless they were LIKE family), so maybe that's a bit different.

Anyways, I would say blame it on the doctor. (Ask your doctor--I'm sure he'll be happy to be the "bad guy"!) Tell them all that the doctor says you can't have visitors for 24 hours. The grandparents, after all, are "labor attendants"--not visitors. I would also ask the hospital if you can limit visitors--most will allow it. My hospital has what they call an option to be checked in "privately", which means that if anyone calls looking for you, they'll deny that you were there. If you're not checked in privately, they'll give your room number to people who call to request it.

Good luck, and congratulations on your new little one!

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Fri, 07-03-2009 - 10:09am

With our first we let everyone come when they wanted. I spent 5 days in the hospital, and we were crowded every minute of those days. The nurses kicked everyone out once in awhile, but they let them take my baby out of the room with them!, I was mad, but way to sick to do anything about it.

The second time around we had the grandparents and my SIL at the hospital, no one else. We asked everyone else to please wait until we were home to come and visit so that I had a chance to recover from surgery and bond with baby.

With the next baby we are going one step further. The grandparents will be at the hospital, and SIl/my brother if they can be there, but we are going to ask that everyone else

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Mon, 07-06-2009 - 4:51pm
Something I really regret is telling our parents that they could come to the hospital the day our son was born. (God, that looks awful to see that written!) I ended up with a 25 hour labor and then a c/s, for some reason, I told my husband he could tell our parents they could come after 5pm (DS was born a little before 9am) All four of them were there at exactly 5 pm and it seemed like they stayed forever. Looking back, I have no idea why I said they could come that day. I was miserable and in horrible pain and didn't want to see anyone. We had said the whole time that only our parents and siblings could come visit at the hospital and we'd like everyone else to wait until we got home-you would swear I was the wicked witch of west!!! My grandma and my aunt were the most upset, followed by my friends. It was absurd. If I did it over again, I would definitely say no visitors until we got home.
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