Home birth with no support?

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Registered: 11-28-2010
Home birth with no support?
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Wed, 01-25-2012 - 1:05pm

DH has almost got me on board with having a baby and we both think a homebirth is the way to go.

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Registered: 04-18-2003
Sun, 01-29-2012 - 2:19pm

Ask the midwives.

Gail

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Registered: 07-21-1998
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 12:26am

So my mother was getting pretty frustrated at her friend & neighbor who would always prevail upon others to drive her (as her age approached 90) no matter how inconvenient it might be, and never used the available services. The general consensus was that in her mind asking a friend was being companionable, but using the low-cost service that was always there for whoever needed it was admitting she was old.

The military service stuff is geared towards wives who haven't got a support system due to the husband's random location. That means you. At least find out what it is, and how to call for help if you need it. Then try to set up something more to your taste.

Over 35 means more "risk", otherwise known as a high percentage increase of a number that's very small to begin with. (I've done stats for a living, also.)

Cthulu Crochet

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Registered: 10-17-2007
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 10:47pm
I think you would end up feeling much more supported having a homebirth than birthing at the hospital. My out of hospital birth felt so much more supported, and I had a close relationship with my midwives. Finding a doula would probably be another great idea for you. You could find someone to be there for support through labor and birth, and also to help you as you transition into motherhood (many doulas will work on a sliding scale with their fees if cost is an issue). I'm planning a homebirth for June and am very excited to be able to relax and be in my own space for my birth. And for me I really like to be left alone alot in labor, so you may end up being that way and like that you don't have too many people there during the birth. Good luck.

 

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Registered: 11-28-2010
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 3:40pm

That's kind of what I was afraid to hear.

Yeah, I know the reg about childcare arrangements.

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Registered: 07-21-1998
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 2:42pm

You probably should be arranging some sort of backup person in general.

Cthulu Crochet