Delivery room drama

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Registered: 02-24-2011
Delivery room drama
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Wed, 07-11-2012 - 12:04pm

Hi all,

I'm due in September with my second child.  Everything is going smoothly but we have two very involved families who are insisting on being present at birth.  My mom and sister want to be there.  His mom and aunt would like to be in the room.  Add to it my BFF that would like to be present too and my head is spinning!  That's 6 people (when you count my hubby) and it is just too much for me.  I'd really just like it to be me and DH.  I'd be okay with my mom being there too but if I allowed that, everyone else would get their feelings hurt. 

Here's my question: how many people were in the delivery room with you during previous births?  If it was just you and DH, how did you tell others they weren't exactly welcome in the delivery room?

Hope, Mommy to Spencer Expecting Baby #2 09/17/12
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Registered: 09-23-2010
Re: Delivery room drama
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 4:17pm
aspenwillow wrote:
You are totally right- I just need to suck it up and let them all know what I want and need. Easier said than done, right? :smileywink: How did your family/friends react when you told them no?

Did you do a tour with the hospital this time? We did because we're in a new state and the nurse told us flat out—if we don't want people in the room and feel bad about saying anything, tell them and they'll take care of it. Yes, a bit sneaky but if you really feel like it's going to cause you stress up until the time the baby comes, I'd go that way. :smileywink:

 

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Registered: 02-24-2011
Tue, 10-02-2012 - 12:05pm
Thank you all for your input with this! I gave birth on 9/23/12 and this really ended up being a non-issue. I politely let them all know that I just wanted my mom and DH in the room. They were all okay with it (or at least pretended to be!). No drama at the hospital this time around! :smileyhappy:
Hope, Mommy to Spencer Expecting Baby #2 09/17/12
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Registered: 04-18-2003
Thu, 10-04-2012 - 12:12am

Awesome! You're very welcome and happy to have help give you a place to discuss the matter. This is one place where it doesn't matter WHAT the issue is, far better it get discussed and the mom-to-be has some idea of whazzup, how to handle the situation or just to get a better idea of reality.

Gail

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Fri, 10-12-2012 - 12:57pm
I'm so glad to hear that it all went smoothly! Congratulations on your new little one!

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