How did you know?

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Registered: 01-16-2013
How did you know?
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Wed, 04-10-2013 - 12:49pm

As a first time mom, I worry about everything of course.  But something I can't stop thinking about is how will I really know when I am in labor? You see so many movies/shows and hear so many stories about ladies that head to the hospital and it is a false alarm.  I don't want that to be me! How will I know that I'm really in labor? LOL

~ Ashley ~

~ Expecting Our First in SEPTEMBER! ~

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Registered: 04-18-2003
Wed, 04-10-2013 - 8:53pm

When you feel the baby crowning. :D Okay so I've watched "I Can't Believe I Was Pregnant" a time or six, LOL! Seriously, it depends on how many interventions you do or don't want, how much privacy you do or don't want. There have been women who have waited until their contractions are three minutes apart before going to the hospital, the birth centre or contacting the midwife. Others at the first twinge want to get checked out. Unless there is a specific concern, water dribbles or breaking is not a good indication. With my SIL's second delivery, her water didn't break as much as it slowly leaked out over five days. The midwives were nonchalant, my co-workers were freaky (I was supposed to help out and was on call). My water broke and my son arrived about 10 hours later. I have heard of women whose water didn't break until 9 cm dilation.

A good rule of thumb is if you can't talk through the contractions with your first baby, it's a good idea to call the hospital or midwife. Don't be frustrated, though, if the hospital checks you out and says you're not dilated enough. Be patient, stay calm and go back home. If you are having a hospital birth, it would still be a good idea to read up on what to do if the baby doesn't follow "the rules" and you end up giving birth at home with someone from your birth team (I've learned to say birth team because the husband isn't always the one taking the active role as a coach).

Gail

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Registered: 07-21-1998
Thu, 04-11-2013 - 9:56am

I was throwing up & trying to push before I left for the hospital. THEN they told me I was only 3 cm and couldn't stay. I did what everyone says not to do, and argued to be admitted. I had the baby 4 hours later.

After the fact, I learned that something very similar had happened to my mother, only she ( a very traditional "lady") didn't argue, but was half-way home (1 hr) during a snowstorm and insisted on turning around.

My suggestion -- if you've got them, ask female blood relatives who've given birth; Your labor may not be the same, but that's the largest probability. (Then learn all you can, and have contingency plans for not making it. DO NOT tell DH to drive like a maniac to get you there once you decide to go; reckless driving is a much larger risk than childbirth)

Cthulu Crochet

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Registered: 04-18-2003
Mon, 04-15-2013 - 9:55am

Many valid points ca_dreamer. Thanks!

Gail