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momma_leslie
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over 4th degree rip 1st time..
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 Fri, 12-30-2011 - 11:31am
Here is my issue, 11 years ago i gave birth to a full term 6 pound 2 ounce baby.. i had a 4 th degree rip.. i was ripped a half inch past my.. ummm anus.. the pain was unbearable.. i hurt and was very sensitive for a year... Sex was awful and lets not even mention bowel movements! i was on limited duty and bed rest 14weeks after birth!! Anyway.. i opted for a c-section for my second birth.. doc let me choose.. i had a much better expirence with my c-section.. besided not laughing for two weeks.. all was great and i recoverd and felt great within 3 weeks.. which was awesome considering my vaginal nightmare.. so, here i am pregnant with my 3rd.. doc again is letting me choose v-bac or c-section.id like to have a vbac and a vaginal birth that goes well.. is their any ladies who have expeirenced what i have and had a vbac that didnt tear them completly open??.. i want.a v-bac but im terrified of spending another year of misery. Any info would be helpfull.. drives me nuts when i see ladies a week after they give birth vaginaly up and about a week later!
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momma_leslie
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Registered: 05-03-2007
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Re: over 4th degree rip 1st time..
 Fri, 12-30-2011 - 11:46am
Or any info about how not to rip.. i didnt mind surgery.. but id rather have a v-bac.. i did get cut twice... Do u think this made the ripping worse..? Also, a vacuum was used to help remove baby, heart rate was dropping.. could this have.contributed to the ripping as well? I dont want fear making my choice for me...
abrose94
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Registered: 04-18-2003
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Re: over 4th degree rip 1st time..
 Fri, 12-30-2011 - 12:13pm

I've heard of many women who had successful VBAC without tearing.

Gail

momma_leslie
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Re: over 4th degree rip 1st time..
 Fri, 12-30-2011 - 12:43pm
Im in such a small area so we have internet only help. So those r not.an option unless i drive several hours away. my doc is pro women choice so no issue there.. my c-section was a breeze i just would rather have vaginal..im gonna hit those sights.. and do those excercises.. i know i can do this.. i just dont know how bad its gonna hurt this time around.. scares me to death! I could not funtion at all. Thanks for your insight.. and info..
abrose94
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Registered: 04-18-2003
In reply to: momma_leslie
Re: over 4th degree rip 1st time..
 Fri, 12-30-2011 - 3:05pm

Compresses of warm olive oil can help soften the area (it sounds like you have a progressive hospital so hopefully they'll be open to that suggestion).

Gail

momma_leslie
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Re: over 4th degree rip 1st time..
 Fri, 12-30-2011 - 7:49pm
Thanks. I know pain and long hours on my feet, and almost every day being in life a death situations.. i recently left a job ive had forever to raise my kiddies.. im a lady firefighter! Lol.. i got through it.. just dread a repeat and having to be tuff again! Lol.. ive been reading up all day.. i see were they used the vacuum to pull my son out quickly, and no stretching of my vaginal area were more then likely the ughly culprits that caused my 4 degree rip! Thanks for helping me make a desion based on facts and information... I almost made the wrong decision based on fear.. im feeling pretty confident i wont rip like that again.. hopefully i can labor on my own slower this time and not push till i passed out while doc pulls like a mad man with a vacuum! I feal much more confident... Most of the site o read where geared toward terrifying me even more.. so glad i finaly got sent to the right place! My c-section was a very pleasent experience for me.. but id rather resort to c-section as an emergency only option thanks again. Im gonna keep reading up and ive already started the keagle excersises! Lol..
ca_dreamer
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Re: over 4th degree rip 1st time..
 Sat, 12-31-2011 - 12:51pm

You're pretty well covered, but just for another data point --

My vbac was good, but the timing could have been better. The midwife was on vacation, and the OB I'd been seeing was on her alternate weekend of being covered by her partner, whose first words after I said I'm in labor was, "Don't get your heart set on a VBAC". She was a piece of work, no doubt; DH says she was trying to prep for surgery as the baby was half out, apparently not thinking it plausiable to suggest it to me when I'd only been laboring 4 hours and there was no sign of fetal distress and I hadn't even asked her to do anything about pain (no drugs).

Cthulu Crochet

abrose94
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Registered: 04-18-2003
In reply to: momma_leslie
Re: over 4th degree rip 1st time..
 Sat, 12-31-2011 - 3:00pm

:) Awesome!

Gail

momma_leslie
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Registered: 05-03-2007
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Re: over 4th degree rip 1st time..
 Sun, 01-01-2012 - 10:02am
After researching, ive realized my doc, using the vacuum, pulling him out quickly while i pushed, doc not preparing me (strecthing) my position, episiotomy ( he cut me twice) where the problem.. anyone one these alone can cause signifacant ripping let alone having all the above.. so i think just avoiding these things would be a major help! I always assumed it was my fault i ripped and that i had no bussiness having vaginal births.. i shoudnt have went for the c-section the 2nd time.. wish i had known more before i decided.. im now relating this info to the poor ladies on the may expecting bored that i terrified by asking the same question i did over here.. lol.. one other issue that i remembers was my obgyn had scheduled 4 women to be induced the same morning i went into labor.. we all had our babies withen minutes of one another.. so i cant help to think his rushing was a result of this..
abrose94
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Registered: 04-18-2003
In reply to: momma_leslie
Re: over 4th degree rip 1st time..
 Sun, 01-01-2012 - 2:59pm

I guess in a way it's a good thing my original post got lost due to a misclick on my part.

Gail

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