Visitors in the hospital

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-17-2013
Visitors in the hospital
Wed, 07-24-2013 - 10:34am

How did/do you all feel about having visitors in the hospital?  I'm leaning towards not wanting any there at all, and would prefer to visit after we get settled at home, but my husband thinks that is a bit rude to ask people to stay away.  What do you all think? What did you do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 07-24-2013 - 10:39am

Ok it's been a long long time since I had kids (18 & 24) but I think it depends on how long you are going to stay in the hospital & how you feel.  If you are pushed out (no pun intended) w/in 24 hrs there's not much time for visiting anyway but I would think that the grandparents will really want to see the baby ASAP.  I had 2 C-sections and w/ the 1st one I think I was there 4 nights.  The 2nd one was 2 nights I think.  Anyway the grandparents and the aunts & uncles all came which didn't bother me that much except that I was not feeling that great so I think short visits are ok but they shouldn't overstay their welcome.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-01-2006
Tue, 07-30-2013 - 12:10pm

I remember being exhausted, and incredibly annoyed at visitors coming in and out right after I gave birth! With this baby I'm not going to have any visitors, and I think it's better to wait until you get settled at home. Your body goes through so many changes and especially if you are trying to get the hang of breastfeeding, visitors make that first day or two very hard. The husband will not be in pain and exhausted, and feeling overwhelmed with feeding and caring for this new baby, so do what works for you!

Community Leader
Registered: 04-18-2003
Tue, 08-06-2013 - 6:38pm

Last time I visited a friend, she was nonchalant about the fact her baby still hadn't been bathed 14 hours after being born. It was kind of gross seeing a baby with post-birth goo crusting on it. I decided to wait until everyone was at home. I've also heard some nastiness between the two families about which grandparent gets to make the claim "First to hold the baby" to the point I've said "Put it in your birth plan no visitors if you're dealing with Grandparentzillas". :D A Baby Story on TLC doesn't cover that, LOL!