another loss (twice)

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another loss (twice)
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Fri, 11-13-2009 - 9:46pm

I had emergency surgery for an ectopic pregnancy yesterday. It wasn't in my liver (thankfully, as I was fearing that) but in my right fallopian tube. It was the twin to the baby I miscarried 6 (?) weeks ago. The Dr said that my other ovary and tube look wonderful, my rupture has healed well, although I have a lot of scarring where the bladder is.

My dr was completely shocked as well as the NP who did my earlier scans and the conferring OB. Everyone were totally blown away. I wasn't, I've felt from the beginning I had twins and one was ectopic. They would have never caught this one but I have been terribly sick the last three weeks and have been pushing for answers to why I feel this way. I thought it was a concussion and went to the ER who released me because of a positive pregnancy test and no ultrasound. Two days later I had an ultrasound and more blood work. Nothing in the ultrasound, and blood
work showed a decrease in HCG as I had expected since I had miscarried weeks earlier. I called several times but they never got a message to the OB and A WEEK LATER my OB called very concerned about my blood work and wanted to see me ASAP in level 4 (?) ultrasound. They had no appointments available and said they could see me in a week. I insisted that it was imperative that I get seen sooner and they said I have an apt IN DECEMBER. So I finally had to settle for a week, which was Wed. I went in for the ultrasound. The tech was very concerned and didn't say much but spent a long time doing the ultrasound. She told me
to go immediately to my DR office ( which was in the same department.)

I did and was told GO HOME. He will call me in a few days (like he did with my lab work??) I refused to go home. But he's not here, he'll be back in a few hours, it's his surgery day. I insisted that they get someone to look at my ultrasound. I overheard them talking to the tech who was clearly worried and said she couldn't see the baby. Since we weren't looking for a baby specifically (the ultrasound order didn't say why I was there) I knew that something was clearly wrong.

So they called my OB and read to him what the ultrasound tech wrote in the report, that there was a large mass near my right ovary. They didn't tell me this, but came and told me that they read the report to the OB while he was in surgery and he told them to not let me leave. So I waited several hours and he came in with a conferring OB who reviewed my previous ultrasounds and records. They were astounded and as it was too late to get me into surgery scheduled me for first thing the next morning. (I left at 4:30 AM for the hospital.)

When they opened me up my tube began to rupture. I bled a lot. They
almost had to give me a transfusion. My BP went very very low and my hemoglobin is low (I'm taking iron for it.)

I am so thankful that I hit my head and pursued the strange symptoms and pushed for the ultrasound and insisted on staying until someone looked at my ultrasound. Otherwise, I would have ruptured at home, 45 minutes from the nearest hospital and alone (my parents were going out of town and hubby works an hour away.) I could have died. But God is sovereign and merciful and He protected me from death.

Another set of twins with Jesus. I was thankful that there was no
heartbeat as I couldn't make that decision to take the baby out, even if it threatened my life, if it meant directly killing the baby. It's been several months that I felt strongly I would have an ectopic and had prayed fervently that if that were to happen that God would take the baby home to be with Him before the surgery. His peace was so strongly upon me as I was wheeled into surgery.

Today Paul has cried a lot. It's very painful for him to cry since the chemotherapy causes tremendous pain to his face. But he is so very sad that our four living girls (ages 2,4,5,6) have experienced so much loss lately. We all are.

Have a blessed and safe weekend,

Sarah,mom to 4 girls on Earth Kailey Faith, Bethany Hope, Taryn Grace and Kaitlyn Joy and possibly 8 treasures in Heaven

missing Allanah Charity (Kailey's twin lost at 9 weeks in 2002)
Thomas (Benjamin's twin lost at 6 weeks in 2008)
Benjamin Isaiah stillborn at 40 weeks on March 8,2009
Emma Liberty miscarried at 7 weeks October 7, 2009
Emma's twin Shalom ectopic pregnancy removed Nov 12, 2009
three possible (unconfirmed) miscarriages in 2006-2009

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Sun, 11-15-2009 - 9:06pm

I'm very sorry to hear this happened to you, and grateful that you DID push about the symptoms.

I don't know if you ever heard, but that's how my first daughter was born -- I was feeling pretty uncomfortable, and the doctor's office would not see me ("It's the doctor's day off; if it's THAT important, go to the emergency room") I really wanted to lie down, but I was at work, and ended up asking one of the most despised managers in the place to make sure I could make it out of the building for my husband to pick me up & take me to ER.

Cthulu Crochet

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Mon, 11-16-2009 - 9:20pm

Rose 


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Thu, 11-19-2009 - 4:01pm

Rose,

No, I don't think that genetics has much to do with it. However, I am a DES grandaughter. My mother has reproductive problems that are a result of the DES and I think that DES is why I have (had?) an abnormal uterus. I think that i ovulate twice, one from each ovary, which has caused a high rate of twins and possibly early miscarriages. Three of the singleton miscarriages were unconfirmed, and they might not even have been miscarriages. But for some reason I can't carry twins. Of course, the first miscarriage was when I fell down the stairs and went into labor. I was 9 weeks and lost Kailey's twin. In March of this year I had a stillbirth following a uterine rupture and my OB said that miscarriages and ectopic pregnancies were a real likelihood post rupture. So when I miscarried it wasn't a surprise and then found out there was an ectopic it wasn't a surprise, what was a surprise was that it took so long to notice it.

I had an apt yesterday and the DR said that my uterus and remaining tube and ovaries look great, we can try again in January!

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Fri, 11-20-2009 - 8:40pm

Sarah,


I wish you the best of luck in ttc.

Rose