First appointment today...sort of nervous

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First appointment today...sort of nervous
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Tue, 11-29-2011 - 2:02pm

I have my first appointment with the OB today, in about 1.5hrs. I'm nervous. I don't know why, but I am lol. I plan to talk to her about VBA2C, but I've heard that her practice does not do VBA2C. I figure I'll talk to her about the new ACOG guidelines and see if they are planning to change/update theirs to reflect that. If not, then I'll be on the hunt for a new OB.

 

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Tue, 11-29-2011 - 5:47pm
It went much better than I expected. I basically told the OB that I wanted to VBA2C and I was already decided on it, so if I needed to find a new practice for that then I'd have to lol. I wasn't rude about it or anything, and she was very nice.

She said she couldn't tell me it was unsafe or that the risks were greater or anything, only that I'm not a 'favorable' candidate and my chances are about 40% The hospital now has wireless fetal monitors so that's nice.

One drawback is she isn't delivering babies in 2012! So she had to refer me to a different OB in the practice. She did mention I did do a good job of letting my uterine scar heal LOL.

She was really great. She said there were no reasons that she could give me not to try. She gave me the two names of those in her practice that would be the most supportive and willing to let me try.

I'm still wishing Daniel would be ok with a homebirth, but I highly doubt it :)

I called another OB and scheduled a consultation with him for Friday. He did a VBA2C with my aunt 16yr ago, but that was because she was preterm, so baby was tiny. But I thought I might as well interview him and see what he says.

 

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Registered: 07-23-2004
Tue, 11-29-2011 - 8:24pm
Yay! Being assertive worked! I'm happy for you. I'm sorry your dr won't deliver babies in 2012, but it's great that there are other drs in the practice who will.

Maybe knowing your dr is on board will help your dh feel better about having a vbac.

Your cousin is definitely misinformed. Sorry you have to deal with that.

Thank you for updating us. Let us know how your consult goes on Friday.

Rose

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Wed, 11-30-2011 - 6:02pm

I thought I might find you here :)

Glad to know your appointment went well.

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Thu, 12-01-2011 - 7:54am
Thanks Joan :) it was great to talk to her and hear her say she had no reason to tell me not to try. I think that really helped my DH to see that it's not any more riskier etc, since an OB said it lol.

I wish it wasn't required for us to have continuous monitoring, but I can see how it might be a pain if the things aren't working properly! I was sooo out of it once we got to the hospital with Jonathan, I don't even recall if we had any trouble with them. I wonder if I'd have coped better not being stuck in bed though.

I'm meeting with their new OB in Jan, Dr. E said she is the one she'd recommend that would be most supportive of my choices to VBA2C. I'm hoping it goes well :)

Oh, do you know if Dr. E is retiring? Or is she just moving to a more in office position and not going to the hospital anymore?

 

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Registered: 02-01-2008
Thu, 12-01-2011 - 4:00pm

I've met the new doctor (she was hanging out with Dr. E at one of my appointments) she seems really nice.

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Fri, 12-02-2011 - 9:57am
Ah I see!! Thanks for sharing that :)

I totally agree, healthy mom and healthy baby :)

 

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Fri, 12-02-2011 - 11:38am

Free advice: Be a little more sceptical, and keep looking for someone better. "I can't tell you it's dangerouous" means she would like to say so. (Points for being honest) but "your chances are 40%" is a bunch of bull.

Cthulu Crochet

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Fri, 12-02-2011 - 1:24pm
Thanks :)

Todays consultation with the other OB went ok. Still had some classic things that I don't agree with, like constant monitoring of the baby. I asked about others in his practice in regards to VBA2C and he smiled and said oh, they aren't all happy about it, but they all have delivered VBA2Cs.

He said I will have a hard time just because of my now labeled 'failed VBAC' from my 2nd. But he also said I have a great advantage of having no trouble dialating, and good progress. He said he would have loved to have been at my 2nd birth to see if my baby was deliverable. Being at a +2 station, he said they could have used Forceps etc.

While I want as few interventions as possible, I do wonder why they never even discussed Forceps or anything.

I don't know, I have mixed feelings now. While talking to him, he seemed very supportive. When I asked about pushing and if they are open to squatting etc, he said they are open to whatever works. But still with the small things like CFM and he said they like to not go past 41w but it was negotiable. I'm just torn.

I meet with the midwife in a week and a half, so I'll be able to talk to her about everything, see if she has any new OB recommendations. She didn't have any for me a couple months ago :( her main OB she recommended passed away last year.

I'll keep you guys posted with how the search goes.

 

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