Hello New hopeful VBAC 10/22
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|Sat, 03-29-2003 - 8:48pm|
I am pg with #2 due 10/22. I am about 11.5 weeks right now but told new midwife I am 10.5. I have my first appt. with the new midwife (CNM) Friday 4/4. Will have to deliver at the hosp. not at home like we wanted. The DEM I had was not very emotionally supportive about my anger and resentment over my c/s. She pretty much "dropped" me so I had to scramble to find another care provider. I told her that her uncomfortable feelings about my past experience led me to believe that she was not comfortable in her abilities as a midwife with my vbac! I also told her that if she could not handle it now then how would she handle me when I really need her like when I am in labor?! I always thought of DEMs as even more supportive, especially with vbac clients. Aparently not this one! Man, I just could NEVER recommend her to any of my buddies, vbac or not!
Hopefully I will be better able to "work over" this new CNM. I really don't want to have to be kniving but, I feel like I have to lie,cheat,steal and fight tooth and nail to get this VBAC. I'm sure you ladies know what I mean about that!
How should I be thinking about my new strategy or game plan this time with the CNM? She says the vbac climate has chilled out since last year (NEJM study thing) here where we live now so everything should be ok. I just have a really hard time trusting any of them right now. I really don't want to "scare" her away either even though she seemed more non-chalant about my past issues than the DEM.
I left another c/s/vbac list because I want to surround myself with more positive people who have had vbacs. I think I have found it here.
Please pray that this new midwife will care about me in the way that I need her to!
Type to you soon.
DD scheduled no labor c/s 04/27/01 for 10.2 breech
#2 due 10/22 hopeful hosp. vbac with CNM