In November 2008
First of all, check with the hospitals in your area...that might be why your doctor nixed your VBAC hopes...that's what happened to me..he was even willing to "sneak" me in anyway if I'd gone into labor (which I never did). He just kept saying, if you are in active labor and progressing, I will not cut you open..but it never happened so I had c-section number 2...(my first c-section was scheduled...breech twins...so NO reason to not vbac...ugh except stupid hospital policy)
Your best shot (if you want to do it in a hospital setting) is to find a "teaching" hospital where there is a resident there all the time. Then, find a doctor who works out of that hospital to do your prenatal care...your ob/gyn might be able to help you with this...I found a list of hospitals who allow vbacs on the internet and for the life of me, I can't remember where it was...
a lot of women on this board have gone to midwives and done home deliveries/birthing center deliveries...for a lot of people, this isn't financially feasible, but some insurances will cover the cost of the midwife....
Good luck...don't give up...I did, and i really regret it...now it's even harder as I face #3 and trying to find someone to let me vbac...even the midwives around here don't want to do it...
It sounds like you STILL know a lot of things that aren't so. From a medical standpoint the 39 week deadline has no justification whatsoever. And if your doctor delayed telling you he wouldn't be doing VBACs when you might reasonably be expected to need one, he might also not be telling you about some place nearby where you can easily get one.
Do your research. Contact "International Cesarean Awareness Network" (www.ican-online.org) and see if there's a local chapter. They would know if people are having VBACs in your area.
And remind the husband that he does not, under modern law, own your body.
First of all, I am so sorry that you lost your sister.