More Roadblocks! Need advice.

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Registered: 07-23-2004
More Roadblocks! Need advice.
Sun, 12-04-2011 - 9:43am

I saw a dr early in pregnancy to make sure that my levels were good and to get progesterone.


iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2005
Mon, 12-05-2011 - 8:34am
I'm sorry Rose :(

I think that if the m/ws are willing, but need to have an OB recommendation first, then keep looking! Find another OB and just keep trying until you get one to agree. After having a successful VBAC in a birth center last time, you would think ONE OB somewhere would agree :(

I have been so focused on trying to get my first VBAC that I haven't even given a thought to what to do about a subsequent one, and the hurdles to go along with that :(

I'll be praying that everything will work out and you'll get the birth you want!

Maybe talk to the m/ws again and see if the have another OB they recommend, and if, for the time being, they can still do your prenatal care?

I'm sorry I don't have any good advice.



iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2003
Tue, 12-06-2011 - 9:05pm
That stinks! I had to search A LOT to find a doc who would accept me as a patient because I had two c-sections. I ended up at a hospital, with midwives, 40 minutes from my house. It worked out, and I got a VBAC. It was not completely ideal, but I avoided a c-section. I would look for support on ICAN, contact doulas in your area to find a good provider. Don't give up!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-1998
Sat, 12-10-2011 - 7:39pm

I'm no expert, but I bet I was older than you are, when I had a VBAC (though I was in the hospital). Sometimes you can't get exactly what you want, but you can lay out your choices clearly and that may help. If the economy hadn't gone south about the time I theoretically could have had a 3rd child, I'd have probably been in that same situation.

So, that freestanding birth center is out. A clandestine home birth might be possible, but you should consider very carefully before you try such a thing. Was your VBAC easy? Was your labor long? Can you get any help?

Another alternative I see would be to work on making a hospital birth as home-like as possible. You'd certainly want your own doula in such a case.

Or if your economic situation is very very good, you can keep searching for a place that would take you, not being limited by distance, but moving nearby whatever facility temporarilly before you are due.

I'll be thinking and hoping for you.

Cthulu Crochet