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|Sun, 06-12-2011 - 2:30pm|
Hello everyone! Since my little girl is due in just about 3 months, I decided to come over here for some advice/support. Here is my story so far: DH and I were married 9/8/07. We found out the day we came home from our honeymoon that I was pregnant. Going by my LMP my EDD was 5/26/08. A few months into my pregnancy I switched OBs because we had moved. At every appointment the new OB would ask if I was sure of my LMP, and decided pretty early on to change my due date to 5/19. At the time I let it go, since I was a FTM. As my due date neared, I had no signs of labor. No dialation, no effacing. Nothing. The OB told me that he has a "One and Done" rule...meaning he lets his patients go 1 week past their due date and then he induces. Again, being a FTM and pretty naive about the whole thing, I went with it. My due date came and went, still no baby. I called L&D to set up my induction, and they happened to have an opening on 5/22. So I took it. At 8am I was all set up with pitocin and cervadil. I was contracting, but not progressing. I never even became a fingertip dialated. After almost 9 hours of pitocin, my OB gave me a choice. I could go home and come back in a week, or I could have a c-section. I chose the c-section.
Compared to many stories I have read, I had an easy recovery. It was a lot less painful than I had expected. The hospital and hospital staff were wonderful. I was holding my little boy and breastfeeding him a mere 5 minutes after being stiched up. It wasn't a bad experience, just inexperience that led to surgery that probably shouldn't have happened. At my 6 week PP checkup, my doctor did tell me that he would fully support a VBAC should I want to go that route with the next baby. At the time, I told him he was nuts and we could just do a repeat cs. Well, 3 years later I've had some time to think about it and I've changed my mind. I don't want another csection. There is no way I can recover from that kind of surgery and handle my 3 year old. At my last appointment, I made it clear that I do NOT want to be induced and I do NOT want another csection this time. He said ok, we would start NST around week 38, but again said that the "new rule" is to only let moms go to 41 weeks. I don't think he is lying, he really is a great doctor. I just need some tips on how to have a successful VBAC...and how to avoid being induced a week after my due date. I'm so afraid that I will end up with another csection because I was never "in labor" with DS, and I have this (probaby irrational) fear that my body doesn't know what to do.
Thanks for reading if you are still with me :) Sorry this turned out to be insanely long. I look forward to any advice you ladies can give me.