New here & need some help..sorry so long

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New here & need some help..sorry so long
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Fri, 02-05-2010 - 11:59am

Hello all!

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Registered: 12-20-2007
Fri, 02-05-2010 - 6:25pm

Is your SO a stats person or a story person?

Have you checked out http://www.facebook.com/theunnecesarean?ref=ts on facebook? Has a lot of good links to facts and stories.

Does your SO know that the rate of uterine rupture is less than 1% And if you go without an epi, even lower?

http://www.theunnecesarean.com/blog/2010/2/4/quick-hit-new-research-on-safety-of-vba3c.html

Loral


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Fri, 02-05-2010 - 6:37pm

http://www.ican-online.org/

Check them out. You might find a local chapter. If so, they can tell you who in your area REALLY supports VBACs.

I want to take you in, feed you tea & have a very long chat, but I don't really have time. The way the doctor told you that you "need" a c-section was postively brutal, and I'm not sure you've figured that out yet. It might be what he thought was best, or he might have wanted to get home, but he did not respect you or your right to make a decision about your body and your baby.

The doctor you have right now is questionable, from the way he "presented the facts" to the SO. He may have had that scenario in mind all along ("Women are so silly, she says she'll bring HIM in, and I'll tell him all about the risks and that will be all")

For what it's worth, my c-section was due to pregnancy induced hypertension, and I had a perfectly easy VBAC (even though the doctor on call didn't want to be there.)

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Fri, 02-05-2010 - 9:30pm

Welcome to the board! I am so sorry that the dr treated you that way.

Rose 


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Wed, 02-10-2010 - 1:40pm

Well, I am happy to report that after talking to my SO a little further that he has had a change of heart.

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Wed, 02-10-2010 - 7:31pm

Hi Jen,


I'm glad everything is falling into place.

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Wed, 02-10-2010 - 7:48pm
There's something called the "Brewer" diet (or "Dr Brewer's Diet"). I can't say for sure it works, but I did it the second time, and did not have any PIH.
Cthulu Crochet

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Thu, 02-11-2010 - 9:58am

Welcome to the VBAC board, Jen!


I wish that I was there to give you a hug.

-Sarah, mom to Melissa Jeanne, born 9/4/07, and baby boy, due 4/9/10

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Thu, 02-11-2010 - 10:13pm

I want to recommend the book Birthing from Within. I think it has a lot of great information on how to prepare for a birth not just physically but mentally also.


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Tue, 02-16-2010 - 10:58am
I am so sorry that you are dealing with all this. There is NO reason for you to have a repeat cesarean for the reasons you listed. NONE! Tell your SO that you have a 4 times greater chance of dying during a c-section, and the baby has a 7 times greater chance of developing asthma and other problems during a c-section. The most important thing to tell him is that the doctors are telling you what they are due to their malpractice insurance and/or ignorance. Or, better still, tell him that if you have never had your uterus cut EVER, you still have a chance of uterine rupture, that is not significantly increased after 1 cesarean. Did the doctors tell you of that risk the first time you had a baby? Of course not! So why now? Malpractice insurance and the messed up healthcare system. Watch Pregnant in America and The Business of Being Born with him. He needs to support you in this, and if he won't then you need a friend, dula, or anyone, to be there with you for support. Someone who will stand up to the doctor with you or for you. I have had 3 very successfull VBACS after a similar story as yours the first time, my last one was at home and by far my best experience. I will never use an OB again, only a midwife. Don't agree to that c-section, just don't do it.
Crystal... First birth emergency cesarean after a cascade of typical ridiculous interventions, 2 hospital VBACs, and my 3rd VBAC AT HOME in April 2009. Water birth and my biggest at 9 pounds 4 ounces.
Crystal... First birth emergency cesarean after a cascade of typical ridiculous interventions, 2 hospital VBACs, and 1 home birth water VBAC.
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Tue, 03-09-2010 - 8:58pm

Update, so far my blood pressure has been 'normal'. Last Wednesday it was 122/84 and so far, we are on track for my VBAC. I have another appt tomorrow and my Dr. said that she will see if she can strip my membranes and see if anything happens. I've been having contractions on and off since Sunday, so we shall see. I am ready for him to be here but I know that it will happen when it's supposed to. Here's to hoping my BP is normal tomorrow and maybe I will be holding my little man soon!

Jen


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