Is your SO a stats person or a story person?
Have you checked out http://www.facebook.com/theunnecesarean?ref=ts on facebook? Has a lot of good links to facts and stories.
Does your SO know that the rate of uterine rupture is less than 1% And if you go without an epi, even lower?
Check them out. You might find a local chapter. If so, they can tell you who in your area REALLY supports VBACs.
I want to take you in, feed you tea & have a very long chat, but I don't really have time. The way the doctor told you that you "need" a c-section was postively brutal, and I'm not sure you've figured that out yet. It might be what he thought was best, or he might have wanted to get home, but he did not respect you or your right to make a decision about your body and your baby.
The doctor you have right now is questionable, from the way he "presented the facts" to the SO. He may have had that scenario in mind all along ("Women are so silly, she says she'll bring HIM in, and I'll tell him all about the risks and that will be all")
For what it's worth, my c-section was due to pregnancy induced hypertension, and I had a perfectly easy VBAC (even though the doctor on call didn't want to be there.)
Welcome to the board! I am so sorry that the dr treated you that way.
Well, I am happy to report that after talking to my SO a little further that he has had a change of heart.
I'm glad everything is falling into place.
Welcome to the VBAC board, Jen!
I wish that I was there to give you a hug.
-Sarah, mom to Melissa Jeanne, born 9/4/07, and baby boy, due 4/9/10
I want to recommend the book Birthing from Within. I think it has a lot of great information on how to prepare for a birth not just physically but mentally also.
Update, so far my blood pressure has been 'normal'. Last Wednesday it was 122/84 and so far, we are on track for my VBAC. I have another appt tomorrow and my Dr. said that she will see if she can strip my membranes and see if anything happens. I've been having contractions on and off since Sunday, so we shall see. I am ready for him to be here but I know that it will happen when it's supposed to. Here's to hoping my BP is normal tomorrow and maybe I will be holding my little man soon!