Oct delivery & freaking out

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Registered: 06-23-2007
Oct delivery & freaking out
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Thu, 09-08-2011 - 6:34pm

I am expecting my second baby this Oct & With our last ob-gyn appointment the doc asked whether I want a trial of labor. I said 'Absolutely' - I wonder whether if my old doc would have even asked that. She was going through my medical records from DS's delivery in 2008 & she told I have tilted pelvis & may not be able to have VB. It proves my theory of 'I shudn't have taken epi so early', cos of which I had to lay down early in the labor aiding towards C/S. (summary of DS's delivery - water broke at 3am, in hospital by 4, Epi by 6-7, stopped progressing by 11am@5cm, doc told C/S by 3 & C/s by 5:30. We didn't inform anyone abt going to hospital & Going to hospital alone w/ DH is a big mistake. From what I know he believes the docs blindfold & wouldn't question otherwise).

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Registered: 07-23-2004
Thu, 09-08-2011 - 9:58pm
Hi Sara,

From reading your story, it sounds like you could benefit from Bradley classes. They are meant for you and dh, Dh learns how he can help you, which may help him to feel more confident when speaking with drs. Bradley also teaches natural childbirth, so that will help you avoid (or delay) having an epidural.

Another idea is to tell dh you're hiring a private nurse, who can be with you in the hospital continually, b/c the nurses in the hospital can't always be with you. Maybe if your dh thinks of the doula as more of a nurse, he'll appreciate her opinions, and feel that both she and he have a place in your labor and birth.

Let us know how it works out. Good Luck!

Rose

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 09-08-2011 - 6:49pm
I suggest trying to get into a birth class ASAP. I took a Bradley class and although I ended up with a c/s, it was a great class and I used a lot of what I learned. It is supposed to be a 12 week class though but you may be able to find someone who will give you a "quickie." Having an epi does increase your chances of a c/s so I think it's a good idea to do without one if you can stand it. If you can find a class, make your DH go with you so he gets the education too. He really needs to understand that while a healthy baby and mom are the priority, a HAPPY mom is also a priority. Try to work on him to hire a doula too. She can be there for BOTH of you. Maybe if you can get an interview and he can talk to one he'll feel better about getting one. I've heard that having a doula can really help your chances of successful VBAC. Good luck, congratulations, and keep us posted!

Manda :)