so confused

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Registered: 12-08-2011
so confused
Thu, 12-08-2011 - 8:39pm
Don't know if this is the right place to put this but I just need advice..or guidance..or something.
My name is savanna. Im 24 years old n have a 3 soon to be 4 year old. This year coming I want to make drastic changes. I want to move to a bigger town towards my aunt. I want to start studying within a field thats somewhat indecisive yet leaning more towards to become a social worker. I want my daughter to still go to daycare.only biggest issue no license to drive. I have a fear of driving. Is this unreasonable? Im hoping not. Any suggestions? Message me please..
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Fri, 12-09-2011 - 10:02am

Well if you live in a bigger city you don't need to drive, you will have public transportation so that's not unreasonable.

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Fri, 12-09-2011 - 1:56pm
True..i keep thinking im being selfish because im taking her away from what she knows but all the same I really dont think it's selfish bc I dont want her to be too sheltered as I was..thanks for the advice and encouragement:)
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Mon, 12-12-2011 - 2:10am

Welcome to the board! :) I agree with Laurie. Living in a larger city will provide you with city transportation and hopefully you will be able to find daycare close by. If this is something you have a strong desire to do then I say go for it. That doesn't make it selfish at all. You'll be doing something to ensure a better future for the two of you.

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Tue, 12-13-2011 - 12:41pm
I agree, cities tend to have transportation pretty well covered. Is this a city you're considering or a town? Our town has nothing as far as public transportation goes. Most things are definitely in walking distance, but not when it's cold or rainy and you're toting a 3/4 YO along (I have one too). I would research what kinds of transportation is available in that area first and have a plan in place. I wouldn't worry too much about putting your daughter into daycare. Kids are very adaptable at this age, and she will probably have fun making a lot of friends (the first week might be tough, but that's pretty normal).

I think you should go for it. It sounds like both you and your daughter will benefit from it.
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Mon, 12-19-2011 - 11:53am
thanks ladies, yeah its hard because I was living with roomates and they aren't really happy about us leaving. But for my daughters own well-being I think it's best me and her go are own way. Things are different now because I guess out of spite my roomates aren't really trying to help me. Most people who are around us say they just used me. Idk. That's why it's really hard since my daughter grew close to these people.
Anyways, if anyone's familiar with san Antonio..where fiesta TX is that is where im headed.
I plan on leaving by Jan 20th so I dont have to pay rent for Feb I can save a little. But with my roomates acting the way they are to me (not my daughter ..yet) im ready to put my 2wks at work and just leave after thats up. But w no job lined up yet im scared of doing so.
Haven't been able to eat much because of nerves and fear.
On my break, I plan to put in an application for target at least..
I hate going through this on the holidays.
I feel really alone thru this. ..:|