12 weeks?

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Registered: 06-16-1998
12 weeks?
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Thu, 10-10-2013 - 11:23am

I just read somewhere that there are 12 weeks left of 2013. I thought "that can't be right" so I checked the calendar, and its true. So that means that there are 11 weeks until Christmas. Another quick check of the calendar and I see that there are 7 weeks until U.S. Thanksgiving. 

Do these facts fill your heart with glee, or dread?

Neither glee nor dread yet for me, but it does point out that its time to start thinking about a few things, making some decisions about how holidays will be spent. (we know that Dee is already thinking about this).

Are your holiday plans pretty much the same every year or do they change a lot? When do you start planning, by when are plans firmed up? 

Is anybody thinking of doing something completely different this year?

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Registered: 07-30-1997
In reply to: elc11
Thu, 10-10-2013 - 11:49am

Nothing either way here - just noodling on what to get dh for our 25th anniv next month.  So far thought of a coin and a cool Hot Wheels display car that he could put on his desk at work (a car he drools over) - of course in silver.  And thought of a big Hershey's kiss.  Up for ideas...

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Registered: 07-24-1997
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Thu, 10-10-2013 - 2:54pm

I was just making up a list of what we need to do before Thanksgiving.  Lots of stuff!

Thanksgiving is always at my house and we always have people sleeping over.  Last year instead of smaller tables, I set up one huge table in the living room, with 20 people around it, and it was one big loud, happy, laughing party.  Our best Thanksgiving ever!  Every year I say to my sisters, "I'm happy to host, but we don't have to do everything the same," and every year they all say, "We LOVE coming to your house, let's do it again!" 

Christmas - I'm not thinking about that yet.  The celebrations that we've had for decades have gone awry due to separation of one couple and my dad's old age.  I figure we'll get to Thanksgiving and see what we all think is best.

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Registered: 04-16-2009
In reply to: elc11
Thu, 10-10-2013 - 6:45pm

We never make a big deal about holidays. Plans are usually finalized the week or two before the 25th. We will probably have dinner here on the evening of the 24th  and a quiet day on the 25th to allow the kids to spend the day with their SO's family.

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Fri, 10-11-2013 - 12:43pm
You all know how I feel about the holidays & the required changes now that there are strong inlaw personalities. Right now, we are considering going to our DS1 in Holland if he can find the right tours for us otherwise we will wail until the New Year to visit him & just join my DD at her place with her inlaws for Xmas dinner. I haven't decorated for Thanksgiving but I heard a rumour that DD is making me a wreath for the door so won't pull mine out but I will look for my hanging spooky witch that Noah loves & put her up. Dee
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Registered: 08-22-2009
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Sat, 10-12-2013 - 7:37am

  I do love this time of year.  In 2000 my mom had a heart attack in Oct, never left the hospital, passed on  Dec 13 and her funeral was on Dec 19.  So for a long time I did not like this time of year it felt like I was just going through the motions.  But after about 5 years my joy for this time of year came  back and even more so than before.   Our anniversary also falls in it so that adds to it.

Because of DD1s journey we have not gone away all year,  we usally take one weekish long vacation a  year plus a couple of weekends.  We are making plans on going to Dallas for a 3 day weekend for our anniversary.  Am really looking forward to it.

With the exception of one Thanksgiving our holiday plans have been the same since we moved here in 1998.  Here at our house with our DDs,   boyfriends the last few years.,  Charlie's dad and stepmother if they are not traveling to visit other family and her brother.  The one exception was one year his dad and step-mother took us to a restaurant.  Last Thanksgiving they  said if they were in town they wanted to take us out this year.  Not that they would make plans to go out of town after inviting us,  they have medical guardianship of their granddaughter who is in long term care in a nursing home  in another state so often have to go there to take care of business. 

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Registered: 06-16-1998
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Sat, 10-12-2013 - 12:34pm

We always do the same thing for Christmas, dinner at home on the 25th. On the 26th we have a lunch with my brother's family---he is gone but we continue the tradition as often its the only time each year that we see niece and her dh and kids. It started back when my mom was alive (because brother/sil spent the 25th with sil's parents) and the location varied between any of the 3 homes. Anyway, we will do that again this year but still need to decide at which house. When/if we will go to see dh's family is the question. The border crossing is the biggest deterrent. At Christmastime the wait to enter the US is typically 2-4 hrs except in the wee hours. Dh's and I have Trusted Traveler cards and can go through that short designated lane but the kids cannot. So either they need to get out of the car and cross as pedestrians (which also can be a very long wait) or we all cross in a regular car line. Dd is planning on coming home for 5 days this year, ds and his gf haven't even talked about when or how long they will come down, so too early to plan.

We have not yet decided anything about Thanksgiving. I'm leaning towards not doing it again, as it would be just dh's parents and dh and me, and dh would need to pick them up and take them back (2 hr drive each way) so 8 hrs of driving for one dinner...although he would insist on spreading it out over a few days. Not sure when I will make a decision, in-laws have a flexible schedule so no rush on their account.

I haven't even decided if we will "do" Halloween! We get so many kids here that we can't sit down to dinner until we turn off the porch light and padlock the front gate (seriously, or else some kids will still come up the walk and ring the bell of a dark porch). Carving the jack o lantern is getting a little old but I do like having the roasted pumpkin seeds. I can wait a couple of weeks to decide. 

For many years I felt like there was little choice regarding if or even how we would observe these holidays. So I just got on auto-pilot and did them. Not that I didn't enjoy them, because I did, but sometimes they were stressful and that diminished the enjoyment. As our situation has shifted, mainly because family members are far away, I feel like I have more choices now and those choices are expanding to other holidays. Unfortunately the additional choices sometimes make me feel more indecisive! Anyone else feeling like this?

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Sat, 10-12-2013 - 12:51pm

We stopped carving a pumpkin a few years ago when the kids were no longer interested.  I bought a plastic one that lights up with a light bulb.

We decided not to do Halloween this year but for the opposite reason from you.  Not enough kids,  when we first moved here we had about 60 kid, it has gotten fewer and fewer every year due to a combination of the neighborhood aging and with more organized Halloween events less kids are T or T.  Last year we had 10 kids.  Decided it was not worth it to continue.