2 mths today until wedding

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Registered: 10-12-2004
2 mths today until wedding
Mon, 03-04-2013 - 12:46pm

Wow, time does fly as we age. It's only 2 mths until my youngest DS's wedding day. Everything is moving along quickly. I will make Noah's vest for wedding in the next week when he comes to visit so that I can ensure I have the right size. Need to take my dress in to be shortened as well as Mom's. I have my shoes & purse. I may ask fiancee to bling it up a bit as it's very plain & the theme includes "bling". The bacholorette is April 20th & the stag is the 27th. I think we are going to do Dave & Buster's for the rehersal dinner to try something fun. The wedding is very formal & so originally fiancee wanted formal dinner for rehersal but seems to be ok with everyone relaxing & having fun instead. I need to get that booked. I am working with my girlfriend on their honeymoon. They want something champaign class but can only afford beer so as our wedding gift, my girlfriend & I will contribute. She is a travel agent so on the look out for something great.

The next event coming up is the bridal shower on the 23rd. I am in charge of the food so any recipes/ideas that you have which are quick, simple & will feed 40 women would be appreciated. I will make both a meat & vegetarian lasagnas as the main food but need other ideas. So far I have had an offer of meatballs & a veggie tray. My girlfriend is doing the cake & cupcakes per usual. I am trying to think of things I can make & freeze or put together quickly as we have the hall at 11 & party isn't until 1. I'm a bit worried as the bridesmaids have been usual with the exception of my DD who is coordinating, did invites & will make up the thank you gifts. One other bridesmaid at least offered to bring some pop but so far the other 5 are missing in action other than to say they will help decorate. Youth today feel they are so busy. Heaven help them when they have husband, kids, jobs & parents to care for. lol



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Mon, 03-04-2013 - 2:20pm

Dee, maybe it's because I'm not yet feeling perfectly well with my joint pain, but when I read all that has to be done for the wedding and PRIOR to a wedding (i.e. all those pre-parties and then well, not to mention shopping for dresses - though that was a long time ago) I am just exhausted reading this and frankly, if and when any of my children get married, I think I am just hoping that they don't go in for a big traditional wedding!  I know or at least I think I wouldn't be able to handle all this stress of getting things prepared.  I am pretty sure my DD would go for an un-traditional wedding, knowing her personality, but I can't even guess what my sons would be in for.  Anyway I sure would be handing over as much to someone else to do whatever needs doing!  But you seem to have been handling things quite well.  I hope all continues to go smoothly.  I'm sure the next couple of months will fly by!  All the best!


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Mon, 03-04-2013 - 10:44pm

Cut and paste seems to have evaporated, along with everything else on I Village.  So I must type.  If you or your guests like salmon, they will LOVE this.  Salmon and Cream Cheese Ball (with apologies to Jeff Smith, the Frugal Gourmet) serves 16-20 as hors d'oeuvers, 8 as a main course, and 1 if SAM is present. 1 pound canned boneless, skinless salmon; 1/2 teasp liquid smoke;  1 tablsp EACH horseradish, lemon juice & parsley; 2 tablsp mayonnaise (Hellmans or Best's); 1/2 lb cream cheese, softened and mashed.  Combine all ingredients, and mix well.  Use plastic wrap to form into a ball, or can be served from a few small bowls arranged down the table.  Can be made ahead and refrigerated till serving.  Offer with crackers of choice, celery sticks, endive boats, or cocktail party rye.

Bruschetta is another crowd pleaser.  Start with:1 pint EACH red grape tomatoes and yellow grape tomatoes, halved lengthwise; 2 cloves garlic, minced; 4 tablsp extra virgin olive oil; 2 tablsp balsamic vinegar; 8-10 fresh basil leaves, chopped; Salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste.  Mix all together and set aside in covered bowl.  Do NOT refrigerate.  Serves 8-10.  Increase as needed, keeping proportions.  Serve on  toasted garlic bread diagonals from your favorite store, with curls of peccorino romano for garnish.  If you think this will be too sloppy, you can serve as a salad.  Place a few garlic croutons in a bowl, top with a couple tablespoons of tomato-basil spread, and some rough chopped romano,  Serve with a spoon.

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Tue, 03-05-2013 - 7:58am

 My DDs are pretty much SOL on mom planning or doing a lot for their wedding.  They did not get a mother that gets excited about/loves weddings but they know that. 

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Registered: 10-30-2011
Tue, 03-05-2013 - 5:35pm

Shirley & 'Nester...Wait until it is time for your kids to get married. It is very different then-your feelings may very well change.

We had a very small wedding-as I've said before-3 weeks notice (no, I was not pg)-but when it was time for our kids to get married-I was happy & excited, I loved their chosen partners & could not do enough. Our philosophy was a bit different than Dee's-we expected them to pay for their own weddings-thinking we'd helped with university, & of course-we had Adam in our lives, needing so much. We helped with what we could-but we didn't pay for it all.

I cried-much to Adam's horror (at DD#1-he thought I was sad or worried. I said "No, I was happy." so at DD#2-he turned to see if I was happy enough to cry)At our son's wedding-I started to cry when they fitted Adam for a tux-he was a groomsman. And went on from there!

I don't think it is the size of the wedding that is exciting-it is that this is another stage they are going through-one you hope will be good for them for the rest of their lives. And watching them be happy & excited & moving on is a joy & something for you to get excited over.  So wait to see-I'm very happy for Dee's son & finacee-I don't even know them! It's a big step-the biggest, most adult step they can take!


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Registered: 06-16-1998
Tue, 03-05-2013 - 7:15pm

Wow, time does fly...I remember when this wedding was a distant plan. Did fiancee ever resolve the issue with her dress at the store that closed?

Sounds like you are very involved with a variety of the wedding related events Dee. Very nice of you and your friend to help finance the honeymoon. I guess the only event that is the traditional "responsibility" of the groom's side is the rehearsal dinner but it seems fairly common for the future MIL to give a bridal shower too. After doing so much for Sandy's wedding this probably seems easy in comparison!

I haven't given a lot of thought to what I might want to do in terms of my kids' weddings, since neither of them are even talking about marriage yet (even though ds has been with his gf for something like 8 years, and everybody assumes that they will eventually marry). Dd will probably want me to help her but not plan and organize the entire event. She has such a unique style that she will probably want things that I couldn't even imagine. Ds' gf is from a family with several organizing women so she won't need my help but may find a way to include me...and of course there is the rehearsal dinner. But this is all conjecture. By the time either of them wants a wedding I may be too decrepit to help anyway!

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Fri, 03-08-2013 - 5:14pm
Wow, my spell check definitely isn't working & so I choose to take this to word to edit & then thought I copied the new version back into my post. Wrong. Thanks, Sabr for the idea. I will definitely be using them. I think we are different when it's our kids doing things. Just think about how much we do to help on a regular basis. So don't be surprised if you are running around doing wedding things you never would have done for yourself. We got the honeymoom booked today & it's a speciality resort. Their rates drop by about 60% the beginning of May so it was affordable. I'm pleased to say that when I tried on my dress last night, it fit. Was actually a little lose so we will see what it looks like in a week when I take it to the dressmaker. I brought a different purse on Thurs & so will gift the one I had purchased previously to my Mom. I also found jewellery for her to wear with her dress. So she is all set now. I purchased the shower gifts from my Mom & the ones from me this week. So I am crossing stuff off my list quickly. Dee