About lunch date with daughter (finally bonding after 12 yrs)
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|Tue, 04-16-2013 - 10:41pm|
Can I FINALLY say after 12 or 13 YEARS that my daughter & I actually enjoyed our lunch date together. She took me to a Cuban restaurant in Times Square (NYC). The one thing I did right was exposing both kids to a variety of cuisines. Far different than me growing up with a French mom who REFUSED to expose my sister & me to anything else besides French, American, Italian & occasionally Chinese. I was in my mid 20's when I started eating a variety of foods. Anyway, my daughter was quick to point out that all the restaurants in Times Sq. are mediocre in quality & overpriced. I understood that point because as a native New Yorker, Times Square is for tourists - not residents. Employees will bring their lunch to work vs. paying $$$ to eat out. The restaurants just have to pass the Health Dept. regulations to stay in business. They don't have regular customers, so they don't care about quality. And for the tourists, they can charge whatever they want, since they know the tourists are not going to complain.
Anyway, NEWS FLASH HERE - Apparently, BOTH my kids are going to Australia May 6th. I was told by my Mom & father in law that only my daughter & her boyfriend were going for a month. Now my son & their mutual friend (from middle school days) are going for 2 weeks. So the 4 of them are renting a 2 bedroom apartment outside of Brisbane, Australia for $350./week. My son & his friend will pay for the 1st 2 weeks while they are there, then my daughter will pay for the last 2 weeks. Her boyfriend has been unemployed & is waiting to hear which graduate school accepted him. They will be renting a car too. Worries for Mom - Australia drives on the left - what if they get confused & drive on the wrong side of the road? She also indicated her boyfriend wants to go scuba diving - with the SHARKS!! No my daughter is not going - my concern is what about his mother - yes, she thinks her son is nuts. By the way - nobody is certified to dive - she said they will look into getting certified while in Australia. I'm kind of laughing at this - because these 4 kids (young adults) all grew up in a suburb of NYC. Meaning their water experience consists of a pool & the beaches near NYC. In all my life, I think there's been only 2 sightings of sharks along the beaches & that does not include the movie "Jaws". even though "Jaws" was supposed to represent a Long Island beach town. Since her boyfriend will be studying marine biology in grad school, I understand him wanting to go diving with sharks.
Next - We got into a discussion about student loan debt & my kids college choices. Her opinion is she's happy she went to a public college for free & graduated with no debt. However, she also stated her brother going to a private university near Boston & graduating with $69,000. of student loan debt was a complete waste of time & money. She thinks it's a heavy burden for graduates to have to repay thousands of dollars in student loans. That her brother will be 50 yrs. old before the loan is paid off & he will have to work until he's 80 while my daughter thinks because she had no loans to repay & she has been saving all her money that she can retire when she's 50 yrs. Here's the facts - SHE graduated college in 2006 BEFORE THE RECESSION. It took her 3 MONTHS to find a job & she had no help from her college's career center & this was a good economy. HE graduated college in 2010 at the height of the great recession & he had 2 job offers BEFORE graduation and the job he picked was paying him $55,000/yr + benefits. How many 21 or 22 yr. olds do you know that got $55,000./yr jobs in 2010 at graduation?? Considering in 2010 nobody could get an interview or get hired for anything - my daughter should realize how lucky her brother was - even though he was graduating with student loans. Today it's a case of my son hates his job, is looking for a different position, but because of the economy, nobody wants to pay him what he's worth. Also my daughter is saying her brother wants to move back to NYC. What?? Where is he going to find a decent job with a high income - Wall Street? Investment funds? You get the idea. He can't take a low paying job because he needs to pay off the student loans. And then if he moves back to NYC, where is he going to live? Housing is VERY expensive here & so is the cost of living here. I don't have the room in our place for him. The only option is if we pay 1/2 his loans & he pays the other 1/2. Unfortunately, my husband is about to retire & we don't have the money + I'm unemployed right now.
Finally - a correction from an earlier post - my daughter's boyfriend was admitted to Univ. of Maine, however it wasn't for the program he wanted. The remaining 2 schools are Univ. of Miami & Univ. of North Carolina. Previously, I thought it was Maryland or Virginia. Sorry - my bad. Everyone they know is telling them, they hope its Florida because when you live up north, who doesn't want to visit somebody in Florida during the winter months. I told her, count me in - I'm taking off from Thanksgiving - Easter.