Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
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|Thu, 10-10-2013 - 3:59pm|
Does anyone have a family member or friend diagnosed with BPD? If so, would you mind sharing any experiences you have had either here or in a private note to me. I'm actually happy that someone else finally sees there is a problem with my Mom that isn't just her drinking. I have said for yrs that she has 2 personalities, the one she shows the world & the one I get hit with. I understand there isn't a drug I can give her to make things better & that she will have to do the work herself but it's a relief knowing I'm not alone in my assessment.
I won't bore you with what's happening but the short version is that things didn't go well with my Mom when I was away for a week. I came home to messages from both the retirement home & the PSW complaining of issues so I called her addiction counselor to ask about my Mom's case. Mom had granted me access to her information but frankly, I didn't want to intrude on her privacy so I never called before. During the conversation I learned that Mom hasn't been to counseling since early July. The counselor said that she felt Mom needed a full mental assessment as the counselor felt Mom was suffering from BPD. She also said that she didn't tell Mom this as Mom wasn't receptive to any suggestion of further assessments.
I have been reading the internet, talked again with the retirement home director who agrees with counselor's assessment & am now trying to figure out a way to get Mom to an assessment. I am supposed to spend a day with her next week so I will try to talk with her doctor beforehand to see if we can set up something where the dr will actually suggest the mental assessment after I suggest her seeing a doctor because I'm concerned with her moods.
Yes, I know this isn't a direct approach but my Mom doesn't work well if someone is implying there is something wrong with her brain. It's ok with the other organs but not her brain. She pretends to be supportive of those with mental illness but it's just a front. She tried to get me to divorce DH when he was diagnosed with chronic depression.