Dinner

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Dinner
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Sat, 08-31-2013 - 6:16pm

Those that are empty nesters do you still sit down to the table for dinner every night?

When the kids were growng up we were real sticklers  for dinner rules.  Everyone at the table, no TV, if the phone rings let it go to voice mail. The only exception to the no TV rule was Super Bowl Sunday.

Now, not so much.  We sit at the table a few days a week, other days we just grab a plate and eat in the family room.  We do sometimes watch TV while eating.  Do not think we have broken the no phone rule yet. 


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Registered: 06-16-1998
Sat, 08-31-2013 - 6:55pm

Most nights we still sit at the kitchen table to eat. Occasionally I declare it a night for "foraging" and we each find whatever for dinner, to eat whenever. About the only time we eat in front of the TV is during the Tour de France since in our area it is broadcast from 5-8pm. 

We also had/have a no phone rule since the kids were young. These days we let all landline calls go to voicemail so we can screen them. Once in a while we pick up during dinner if its someone who will be hard to reach later but mostly its still no phones. I don't even bring my cell phone to the table but the kids do when they are visiting. We've had to remind them that there's no texting allowed at the table either!

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Sat, 08-31-2013 - 7:56pm

We have not had the problem of the kids using their phones at the table.  

There is a bit of an issue with them getting used to our more casual style.  When DD2 was staying here after her surgery when she was up to meals with us she set the table every night for dinner so we did eat at the table that entire time.  

When the kids are all here for a more formal dinner we do a sit down but when something more casual like pizza we just do buffet style.  The first few  times we did that the kids seemed a bit confused that we were not sitting at the table. 

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Registered: 06-16-1998
In reply to: elc11
Sat, 08-31-2013 - 10:32pm

I think my kids always have their phones with them. They seem to see them as extentions of themselves. They get kind of annoyed if they cannot reach me because I didn't have my phone right next to me...oh well.

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Registered: 07-30-1997
Sun, 09-01-2013 - 8:02am

Yes, dh and I eat breakfast and dinner at the kitchen table daily.  On super rare occasion we'll bring food to the den (now in pieces; will be a while) to eat while watching something on a weekend night but usually we wait til later to watch anything; we're not that into tv.  The meals are time to catch up or plan stuff as otherwise we're often off doing separate things.

Sue

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Registered: 04-29-2000
Mon, 09-02-2013 - 12:02am

We sit down to dinner every evening.  Our t.v. is in the family room and the kitchen and family room is 'open concept' so we can see our t.v. from our table.  We tend to watch the news during supper.  We always sat down to dinners as a family when the children were growing up.  Our t.v. was not in the kitchen then (it was in a separate room).  But even so, if it had been, we wouldn't have had the t.v. on during dinner then.  Now we (meaning Ray and myself) watch it because the news is usually on when we sit down to eat.  The only thing we may eat in the family room is the dessert, and even when the children are here for supper.  We may also have the t.v. on at that point, but not usually do we have the t.v. on when we are seated with the children at the supper table on Sundays.  We do like to converse and find out what's happening in their lives.  Only one son may get a phone call on his cell over dinner.  We allow him to answer but it's not like he gets a barrage of calls or I would ask him to turn his phone off or at least the ring off.  We now have a home phone that shows on the screen who is calling.  If there is a number we don't recognize (or name for that matter, though the names of people we know will show up on the phone, not charities asking for money though), we won't answer it.  It so  happens that more often than not, charities and such phone during supper hours.  So I am glad to have that I.D. feature on our phone now!  When we didn't have the I.D. feature, I had a hard time NOT picking up the phone during dinner...which seems kind of dumb, but....

We do tend to eat all our meals at the table pretty much and together too, pretty much.  That is to say, when Ray is home...and now that he's retired again...he's often home most days - except on Sundays when he's at the train club (at least until the end of September or whenever it is that the train club rides end and the club will be closed to the public on Sundays (can't recall the date...maybe till the Canadian Thanksgiving date in early October?). Then again, if he is away at lunch time (as he sometimes goes to lunch with some buddies of his on occasion) I will then sometimes eat my lunch at this computer!  

Shirley