My second eldest son...

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My second eldest son...
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Wed, 06-04-2014 - 1:49pm

should be off on a trip to Vancouver...actually first he will stop at Kelowna at my sister's.  To drive from here to Kewona is about an 8 to 9 hour drive on its own.  He will tackle the rest of the trip to Vancouver the next day and that is about a 4 hour drive.  Although my son is 30 years old, it is not so long ago that he (finally!) got his driver's license!  He has a car (fixed up old car, but was certified to drive) and this is his first long drive...oy!  I worry so much about him on this drive.  He is my son who is artistic, extremely sociable, talkative, a bit scatterbrained (kind of ?) or something about him that just sometimes isn't as reliable as I'd like him to be - not that it is my concern so much in most aspects of his life.  Like, I have no idea when he set off for the drive this morning, but Ray and I were sure hoping it would be a decent early enough start as I said, it's on long drive.  And yesterday evening I phoned him and  he was still preparing his artwork for the trip - still putting on some frames he had made!  What?  Still hadn't got his car packed and well.... ideally he should have had all that stuff done. I shall be most relieved when I hear from him when he arrives at my sister's. 

He is bringing some art work to Vancouver to show at a friend's 'gallery' (or some sort of showplace...I don't think it's a fancy sort of place).  Patrick has created photographs - constructing creations or 'compositions' of various bits of things he's collected and photographing them.  Not sure if I've mentioned all this before.  He has taken a black cloth, laid it flat out and arranged various items in an artistic fashion, or 'design'.  He's got bits of animals bones (i.e. coyote jawbones and such), feathers, old keys and bits of metal things (not sure what), and all sorts of things he's collected that he finds interesting (he likes old stuff!).  He takes photos of these arrangements but will do long exposures with his camera so  he can shine coloured lights on parts of them to colour those parts, essentially.  Not all of his work makes use of those coloured lights and I do like his natural lit ones too.  He's had the photos enlarged (by about 3 x 4 feet, I think) by a professional printing company - has had them printed on canvas and stretched them himself over frames.  I wasn't sure I'd like them on canvas but they do seem to work well.  They almost seem like paintings in a way. 

Some friend of his has a place in Vancouver where he invited Patrick to bring his stuff to display them for about a month.  This will be Patrick's first showing.  I'm excited for him.  But again, that drive worries me.  I have driven it with Ray so many times to go visit my sister, or to drive to Vancouver too, and it's all through the mountains and well...it's just darn long - mostly two laned highway, though there are 'passing lanes' every so often.  As long as he does not decide to speed...as long as he is cautious enough, he should do fine.  The weather is great today and so good for the drive.  Keep your fingers crossed - mostly for a safe drive!

Shirley

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Wed, 06-04-2014 - 2:24pm

"...artistic, extremely sociable, talkative, a bit scatterbrained ... sometimes isn't as reliable..." pretty much describes Rae as well, when she is off her ADD meds, as she has been for the past year.  When Anthony asked Dh for Rae's hand, Dh clasped him and said, "She's YOUR problem now!!!"  But Ant knew what he was getting into, having survived her losing airline tickets the morning of their flight, hitting HIS car, in HIS driveway, forgetting to feed his (expensive, exotic) fish while he was out of town--with the obvious, unhappy result, and then putting the corpse in his freezer, which he stumbled upon when reaching for a ice cube, BEFORE he checked his fish tanks...

But she has survived, and she prospers, as I expect your son will, as well.  Yes, we worry, but weve learned to just take a deep breath an let go.  That's the best thing you can do, for both of you.  He'll be fine.  And congrats on the showing!  Maybe he'll sell some stuff.

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Wed, 06-04-2014 - 3:11pm

Hope it goes well - any chance of a picture of any of it? Sounds interesting!

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Thu, 06-05-2014 - 8:38am

Shirley, he will be fine. I have done that road by myself with no problems. In fact, I drove from Van to Ottawa and then Montreal at about your son's age by myself.

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Fri, 06-06-2014 - 12:24pm

If you knew Patrick like I do, 'teadrinker' you might not be so sure - but then again, I do realize that I am mostly just feeling anxious from my own imaginings - no one can know for sure what the future holds.  And 'letting go' is what we parents must do, this is certain. 

However, the latest news is that Patrick did not leave on Wednesday as planned...he was far too behind in getting things ready and so was packing up stuff and whatever right up to 4:00 that day!  He phoned his father (I wasn't home and he didn't call my cell) at that time and Ray said "Do not attempt to leave to drive at 4:00 - too late!"  So assuming he listened to his father, he should have left yesterday early in the morning.  We told him to phone his aunt in Kelowna so she would know of the change of plans.  (I"m pretty certain she wouldn't have been pleased only in so far as she would have had a nice supper ready and waiting for him).  We don't know what happened yesterday...haven't heard from him, and I did not call on my sister nor did she call me.  So it is hoped he left yesterday and arrived either in Kelowna or as he even thought he might do...drive all the way to Vancouver in one day...sigh.  I just don't know.  Ray said he'd text Patrick this morning.  Stay tuned?

Shirley

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Fri, 06-06-2014 - 12:26pm

Sue, I don't know if I can round up a photo or two of his work...not sure but Ray may have some on his computer and he can somehow send me some?  (Lord, I am so technically challenged, I don't know how this stuff works!).  We shall see.

S.

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Fri, 06-06-2014 - 4:57pm

Patrick phoned a short while ago to say he is in Vancouver now!  Yay!  He did not have time to relate much about the trip as he's now quite busy to get his work up on the walls of this gallery.  Apparently he did stop at my sister's in Kelowna and so that is good.  Now we shall await another phone call from him to learn how things are going with the exhibit which has the opening on Saturday. 

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Fri, 06-06-2014 - 7:26pm

Glad to hear that he made it safely to Vancouver. I chuckled when I read your first post....not that it was funny for you but I remember this sort of thing with both of my kids, even with ds who was the less scatterbrained one. Some of it was just lack of experience and they learn how long it takes to pack a car etc after having done it a few times; and some of it is just that they may have a more "fluid" sense of when they need to do something or be somewhere. And I guess your sister will also learn from experience to not cook a nice dinner for Patrick until she knows that he is on schedule!

Is he supposed to return to Vancouver at the end of the month to pick up his artwork? 

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Sat, 06-07-2014 - 4:56pm

Sue, I asked Ray if  he had some photos of Patrick's work on his computer and yes, he does and he sent me one which I can include here.  I don't think it's one Patrick has had blown up bigger on canvas for the exhibition.  Ray didn't want to have me put up any more than this, as he would want Patrick's permission and so one it is.  This one is very vibrantly coloured because of his use of the coloured lights he shone on the different parts of the arranged items.  Not all his photos are so brightly coloured and I do like the ones that are naturally lit (i.e. natural colours).  Anyway this gives you one example of his compositions of his collected objects. 

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Sat, 06-07-2014 - 10:00pm

Wow - very interesting technique!  TFS!

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Sun, 06-15-2014 - 1:17pm

We've only heard twice and briefly from Patrick while  he's been in Vancouver.  He didn't have time for long talks, but at least we heard that things were going well.  He may be coming home this week but I texted him to get a better idea of when, if so.  And I reminded him that if he is to stop at my sister's on his way home (as I believe he wants to do) that he should give her a bit of a heads up about when so she can prepare.  But I talked with my sister yesterday and she was most understanding of the situation, of the fact that he was so late in getting going.  I think she is much more aware now of Patrick being Patrick! 

So I look forward to hearing about his adventures, the exhibition and all that.  I am not sure now what plans are for when the exhibition is over.  I assume that his friend will keep his work in safe keeping until Patrick makes the trip back to pick them up?  Again, I don't know the plans - even when he may be coming home, so I expect to hear from him possibly today if and when he texts me back.

Shirley

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