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|Sat, 12-14-2013 - 9:16pm|
As you all know-this has been a horrible year for me, for us. The holidays are bringing back all the pain & anguish for both Mike & I. But onward & upward-we're getting on with things, determined to survive all this somehow. Last Christmas we knew it probably be Adam's last-nobody could live without lungs...though he did it for 5months! I can remember telling Mike that in my nursing experience, the loss of a child either brought a couple together or tore them apart. Of course-he scoffed at me-but I think he did listen because we're trying hard to enjoy one another again.
So now we're working to make this house look it's best & trying to rid ourselves of stuff (junk?)so that when we downsize, we aren't drowned in it. Mind when I say "we're working" I'm speaking rather loosely-I come up with the ideas, Mike does 99.9% of the labour! And when he's done-I cross that item off the list-it's called division of labour! We're hoping to move in the Spring. Wise people say to wait a year after a death-so that is what we are doing, but also because there is a year's worth of work. For so long our energy & time went into giving Adam as good a life as was possible.
I guess, like Kathy, I have a new career too-but only because I lost my old one as "Adam'smom". Now I'm just "Nora"-anything else is an add-on, not as time consuming. Not a voluntary choice, for sure, but really different! I'm learning to enjoy the empty nest-just Mike & I, 2 Pugs & 3 cats! Not totally empty-but emptier than it was a year ago. (& so are our hearts-but we won't go there. You all know that)