Not able to sleep

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Registered: 10-12-2004
Not able to sleep
Sun, 08-17-2014 - 1:28am

Do others have this problem? I've been lying here in bed since 10:30 & I'm tired but for some reason I don't want to go to sleep. I've read Facebook updates, played games, surfed the net & printed some recipes. Yeah for wireless printers. I won't put down the iPad & try to sleep. I have been doing this 2 or 3 times a week lately & then I'm exhausted for a couple of days until I catch back up with my sleep. I know if I tried, I would fall sleep but there is this strange sense of panic that is preventing me from actually trying to sleep.. It's very strange, I used to have problems staying asleep when I was working. I would wake up after a couple of hrs and run through all the things I needed to do. Then I would either make a list or get up and do some work until I get tired enough to sleep for the rest of the night.  But I never had any problems letting go & going to sleep.  

DH is getting very frustrated with me as he will wake up & find me awake then he sees how tired I am the next day. He has no problem sleeping & never has. This is just strange, I know that I will fall sleep shortly after I put this iPad down but I need to make myself turn the iPad off.

Does anyone else have any strange sleep issues? Dee

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Registered: 10-30-2011
Sun, 08-17-2014 - 8:18am

My trick is to fall asleep for an hour or so-then wake up & wander around for hours-worrying about something. Of course, lately it is worrying about all we must do in the new house. It isn't new-there are things that must be done to make it habitable to us. New appliances, new screen/storm doors, new garage door-everything costs money. And then there is the fact that I am leaving my mother behind-sure everyone here can look after her. But it isn't looking promising. She has an appointment tomorrow at the Asthma clinic-"Looked After-don't worry about it"-except apparently it isn't. My sister simply cannot get off work, her dh promised to babysit their grandchildren & my brother-well, who knows, but I'll put my packing aside to take her to the appointment. Will this happen again when I'm 400km away? And so I pace at night.

I have a book of pencil puzzles that I will get into that helps distract my mind-more than anything electronic, more than tv or a book to read. I think because it is different & I can put it down without waiting to have an ending. Unfortunately I also have the very bad habit of nibbling while I wander around-gotta break THAT habit again. (I did that when Adam was so sick)

Poor sleep is a sign of post-menopause I believe, Dee-part of the "Old Lady World" ;-( I guess our ancestors were allowed to fall asleep in their rockers while they knit socks & mitts for the next generations-& their kin-folk would tee-hee at ''granny a'sleepin again''  Nora

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Registered: 07-30-1997
Sun, 08-17-2014 - 8:38am

Sorry to say yay, but glad it's not just me!  I figured it was hormonal too - I'm 'post' as well.  Only way I've gotten 'better' about it is to exercise more so I'm so exhausted I only stay up for 1/2 hour to an hour during the night (thinking, worrying, just laying there, whatever).  The worst is to worry that I'm going to wake dh up with it  all.  I figure if I'm just 'resting' (not sleeping) and lay there quietly I still feel relatively rested. So if something is bugging me, I'll email myself at work if it's something to take care of for there, email ds if it's something about him, etc. just so I can lay there quietly, and that seems to help. I don't start doing anything physical or I'd never get back to sleep.  Sorry this is happening but it makes me glad to hear I'm not the only one!


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Registered: 08-22-2009
Sun, 08-17-2014 - 1:31pm

 Thankfully sleep I have never had a problem with sleep issues.  When I do it is pretty much connected to caffeine, I do not drink coffee and only non caffeine sodas at home but sometimes when out I drink sodas with caffeine.

  I think the fact that I work at a very physical job so I am physially tired when I go to bed. 

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Sun, 08-17-2014 - 3:19pm

I also have sleep issues from time to time. I tend to stay up much too late, maybe kind of what you are describing Dee. I know I should go to bed but somehow I feel almost compelled to stay up. Finally when I'm exhausted I go to bed. I usually can fall asleep pretty quickly when my head hits the pillow (although some nights it takes a long time to fall asleep). I usually will then sleep through the night (sometimes waking to walk to the bathroom in the dark and then quickly falling asleep again) but occasionally I awaken in the middle of the night and I'm wide awake. I'll just lay there for 30 mins and if still awake I go heat up a cup of milk in the microwave. Back to bed, and give the milk 30 mins to work its magic.  It almost  always works for me, but if not, I just get up and figure I'm going to be a zombie that day.

Dee do you have any idea what is causing the sense of panic? Are you still doing your exercises? Seems like you used to get a fair amount of exercise with the curling and Zumba. Now that you are nanny-ing I imagine that its hard to fit in exercise.

Like Emptynester I have to be careful with caffeine too late in the day. Before noon its okay, but in the afternoon it can keep  me awake unless I've done strenous activity that day. Kind of a problem somedays, when I'm dragging in the afternoon and need a pick me up. It doesn't help that I am a night owl, I could live very comfortably with staying up until 3am and sleeping until 10am if the rest of the world would also get on that schedule!!

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Registered: 10-12-2004
Sun, 08-17-2014 - 10:10pm

As I suspected, I was asleep within a few minutes of shutting down my ipad. I do not have a problem getting to sleep but rather wanting to go to sleep. I have never been a night owl & need my 8 hrs of sleep to feel rested. It's almost like I'm having a mini panic attack at the thought of sleeping. It's so weird. Menopause definitely brought the interupted sleep issues. When I do go to sleep I get about 4/5 hrs before I wake up totally which is why staying up late is frustrating because I just get up for good when I wake up at 6 or 7 after falling asleep at 2 or 3. If I can get to sleep by 11 then I will be up for an hour or 2 in the middle of the night but can then go back to sleep for a few more hours.

I'm not able to do any of my formal exercise activities because of the damage I've done recently to my ankles but running after Fynn all day definitely gives me a work out & I am physically tired each night.. I was looking at some walking & zumba programs on utube thinking to try those this week for short periods since I don't have the kids. I have to build up my ankles slowly.

It's time for me to head to bed now at 10 & already the stress is starting. Reading doesn't work to relax me anymore as I know I can stay up to finish a book if I'm enjoying it. I'm thinking I may look for some music to use to relax. I really think the problem is that without a job, I'm a bit lost as I'm so used to be insanely busy that I can't just do one thing at a time. My idea of a good afternoon is listening to a book on tape while I do laundry, knit or sew & text with my kids. I need to figure out how to get off this treadmill. I think I feel the need to prove I'm still valuable even without being employed. Retirement is great but I sometimes feel useless & unimportant. Guess too much of my identify/self worth was linked to my job.

As always, its great that we have this place to come & chat about our problems. It certainly helps me to know I'm not the only one with some sleep issues. Dee