WARNING to all us baby boomers about our parents doctors
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|Sat, 08-31-2013 - 6:52pm|
Hope all of you are sitting down for this. My FIL (93 yrs. & going strong) previously had a prostate operation or procedure back in Dec. He was OK at first, but over the last 7 months or so, he was complaining of pain during and after urination. He visited same doctor and no change. Recently switched doctors and currently in hospital to find out what's wrong. We thought it was the prostate. Well, this doctor told us the nurse at the previous hospital FAILED to remove the entire catheter. Apparently, there was a piece of catheter left in him which he never realized. So at this point, his prostate is mostly gone, he has kidney infection or inflamation and the current doctor explained his kidney possibly got infected from the catheter.
The issue is my FIL is a bit stubborn but he is very trusting of physicians. His attitude is not to question and to do whatever the doctors say. He also believes doctors don't make mistakes. Obviously, my husband & I have been trying to get him to switch doctors for years and every time we want to question the doctor, if my FIL is in our presence, we're basically told to shut up.
For us baby boomers, we don't take anything for granted and we've grown up to question everything. But for WWII veterans, their generation was entirely different. It was you did what you were told and shut your mouth and respect your elders. So what's adult children in their 50's and 60's supposed to do with their elderly parents? At best, we're working hard at our jobs + making sure our parents are comfortable and have everything they need. At worst, we're told we don't visit them enough or they don't get to see their grandkids enough.
As for any lawsuit or medical malpractice, yes this case qualifies, but my FIL is upset with what happened but refuses to do anything about it. Tomorrow, he will be released & we get to take him home.
As for my other issue with unemployment, would you believe I got chewed out by my own mother (89 yrs.). I swear, our parents are elderly but you still feel like a child. So I'm tempted to visit unemployment Tues., either apply for SEAP or just tell them I'm working and close my file. Too much stress at this point. Let me get dressed and go for my evening walk. Didn't do the treadmill today - too humid.