What I've been doing lately (long post)

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Registered: 11-24-1997
What I've been doing lately (long post)
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Sun, 04-14-2013 - 11:28pm

Will try to keep this short.  Since I've been laid off from Staples & signed the severance contract...I've researched brokerage firms to do a 401K rollover to an IRA, enrolled in a real estate salesperson's course for a New York State real estate license, tried working on my resume & dealing with issues with my father-in-law.  Also told the kids & my Mom about my unemployment situation.  The one that's taking up a lot of time is dealing with my 92 yr. old father-in-law.  He's in this stage of being cognizant of his surroundings & has the ability to live independently, but he's also very stubborn & refuses certain things to make life a bit easier.  My husband is his only child & we worry when he goes outside by himself.  The worry is because he lives in a low income area of New York City & takes buses to visit doctors, walks to stores for shopping, etc.  It doesn't take much for somebody to attack him.  That said, he also assures us that he knows how to defend himself & he will put up a fight.  But be realistic - he does look 92 yrs.  Yes, we've notified the police incase something does happen, but again, be realistic - this is NYC.  The police will take your name & phone #, but it's not their priority.  The police priority is terrorists, murders & anything else the police want to keep off the front page of the newspapers & YouTube.  The mayor is bragging how low the crime rate is & will do ANYTHING to keep his crime statistics as low as possible, so the tourists can keep coming to NYC & spend plenty of money here.  Anyway, we do visit him about 4-5x/week.

Now for some interesting news - our daughter (yep, the one who gave me a difficult time when she was in high school) is meeting me for lunch this Tues.  I called & told her I got laid off & now that I have time, I wanted to have lunch near her office & I would pay.  Considering she hated me for years & SLOWLY started having a relationship with me, this is a milestone.  Her big news at the moment is she is quitting her job May 3rd & taking a month to visit Australia with her boyfriend.  Her boyfriend is still waiting to hear which graduate school accepted him & considering his field is marine biology, Australia seems like a perfect destination for a future scientist.  Yes, they have plans to visit the Great Barrier Reef.  And yes, I've known her boyfriend for 15 years (they are high school sweethearts), so he's not the type to murder her, like the husband from Georgia or Alabama did.  So Tues. will be the last day I see her before she heads to Australia.  Hopefully, when they get back, he will know which grad school accepted him, so I can know where they will move to.  Currently, they live near us in a NYC suburb, but they will be moving to Florida (Univ. of Miami) or Virginia or Maryland.  I'm hoping it's Miami, Florida because next winter when it's bitter cold & snow - I can pack my bathing suit & beach gear & head to Miami & surf in the WARM Atlantic waters.  By the way, I hope it's warm in Miami in January. 

Well, that's it for now.  I have real estate class Mon. Wed & Fri. from 9 - 12.  It's lots of reading & studying.  It's a bit difficult for me because I haven't stepped foot in a classroom since 1974! AND I haven't had to study for anything since 1974.  So, this is a lot for me.  My only saving grace is having a husband who is a high school teacher & can help me.  Trust me, I need to know math concepts & I hate math - so guess who - dear hubby is a Math teacher - yippeeee!

Kathy

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Mon, 04-15-2013 - 12:48pm

Sounds like you're really busy now Kathy--at least there's no time to get bored! Good luck with the real estate course. Will you be hoping to join an office in your neighborhood, or have some other idea or plan? Are you thinking of specializing? I imagine that one needs to get some experience first but I've been seeing how some agents advertise that they are a "_____ specialist", such as short-sale, or a particular neighborhood or type of housing. In the NYT there was an article about a pair of agents in NJ who specialize in sales due to divorce, which requires a certain finesse to work with clients who may hate each other.

Nice that you are having lunch with your dd. I remember from "the olden days" how rocky your relationship was with your kids. Cool that she's getting a month in Australia. Are they packing up their apt before they travel?

As for January in Miami, it can be warm or cold depending on if there's a cold front that gets that far south. My parents lived in Ft Lauderdale for years and sometimes in the winter it got into the 40s or lower, but only for a couple of days. It will definitely be warmer than NY in the winter. The only sure thing about FL weather is that the summer will be hot and humid!

Keep us posted on how your course and job search are going.

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Registered: 10-30-2011
Mon, 04-15-2013 - 2:00pm

Hi Kathy-I was thinking of you the other day & wondering how you were doing. (it takes awhile for my brain to connect with my fingers-so I hadn't gotten around to posting here to ask you)

It sounds as if you have made the lay-off into a golden opportunity-good for you! It's good that your dd is using her free time to visit Australia too!

Nora

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Registered: 11-24-1997
Mon, 04-15-2013 - 2:00pm

elc - My daughter & her boyfriend moved out of their apartment March 30th.  Their lease was up for renewal & their landlord was increasing their rent by $50./month to $1300./month.  Since her boyfriend is unemployed, it was too much money, so they moved out and currently are living with his parents nearby until they hear from grad school.  His parents have an apartment meaning not much privacy.  So for 2 months, it's fine.  They leave for Australia May 5th. 

As for the real estate thing - I haven't reached the stage of specializing yet - I'm focusing on passing 2 exams & getting the license.  Then I'll worry about specializing.  There's 1 woman in the class I was speaking with & we're both in the same boat - worked for corporate for years receiving a paycheck with taxes & benefits deducted.  Our future will be totally different - here in NY, we're considered independent contractors & will work on commission or fees & will have to pay our own employer taxes & benefits.  Seems so weird to me at the moment.  This woman went on a few interviews & she was getting asked "what are your goals or plans in 10 yrs." and "are you up to date with technology".  And of course, this is being asked by 20 or 30 yr. olds who don't know about us 50+ prospective employees.  Can you smell age discrimination?  If this happened to her, I feel intimidated going on interviews because I don't want to face somebody my daughter's age & getting asked those type of questions.  And given the economy, I'm sure they don't want to pay me what I'm worth, because I will cost too much. 

Kathy