Creative ideas anyone?

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Creative ideas anyone?
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Mon, 11-07-2011 - 6:17pm

The Xmas holiday season is fast approaching again & I'm trying to figure out how to handle getting together at some point during the holidays with my kids & their SOs. I'm caught with a series of restrictions.

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Mon, 11-07-2011 - 7:38pm

That is a tough schedule Dee. My suggestion is a brunch or lunch on one of the days. That's how we see the relatives. We go to SIL (brother's widow) for a lunch with her and our niece and her kids on the 26th. It used to be held at my mom's until she passed away then moved to brother's home; he and SIL spent the 25th with her elderly parents until they passed away so they couldn't see my mom or us until the next day. Its about a 90 minute drive each way for us so lunch allows us to miss the rush hour traffic. We try to see Enrique's family on the weekend between Xmas and NY but since those are on weekends this year we will go mid-week for a lunch (which is their main meal at 2pm, anyway) and hope that my BILs can get off work for it.

Is January 2 a day off for you or your kids? (I think that in the US many companies will observe it as the day off for New Year's since it falls on a Sunday) That could be a day to get everyone together. When does James return to BC? Would he still be there on the 6th, when you could have a Three Kings dinner with the ring cake etc? I realize that January is pretty much after the main holiday season but you all will have already exchanged gifts so its really just a special time to be together and could be a fun new tradition. (in some places, such as central Mexico, many people exchange the gifts on 1/6 with 12/25 being strictly a religious celebration).

When/if you get them all together, can there be a discussion about getting together next year? You didn't say with which families all of those other days are spoken for, but if they are with the family of Sandy's dh and Sydney's family then I don't think its unreasonable for you to "demand" equal time.

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Mon, 11-07-2011 - 8:57pm
Thanks for the suggestions, I don't need the gifts. I just want some time - everything is normally dinner but lunch or brunch may work.

Xmas Eve is SIL's family Xmas, Boxing Day is Sydney's family and then they all want to head out NYs but Sandy/Syd have to work and it's our special night with Noah. I've never heard of the Three Kings but just looked it up and it sounds like a great time to celebrate.

Dee
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Mon, 11-07-2011 - 9:24pm

Sticking with the brunch/lunch theme, IF they all have New Year's Eve day or New Year's Day off then you could do a brunch then.

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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 7:33am