It does sound like you'll need to sit down with her to hear the details, although maybe this plan is still in the 'thinking out loud" stage. My dd used to do that, I'd hear different schemes and start getting worried until I learned that she was just talking.
How often do you get to really see your dd and spend some one on one time without interruptions? Is she the sort to easily answer questions about her plans, or does she see it as you prying or being negative or controlling or something like that?
Responding to yours and Dee's comments and questions:
Dee, I wrote a post under Elspeth's post, but it was also to answer and respond to your post as well.
Shirley, I really know what you mean about wanting to know the basics of your dd's life. That's exactly how I felt a lot of the time for the last few years that my dd was living here--in fact that's why I joined Facebook, to see my kids' updates so I would know what they were up to! My dd did call to vent or dump sometimes, and then I knew more than I wanted to lol, but a lot of the time I felt very disconnected from her and I missed knowing who she was becoming. Like you, I accepted it, and I got used to not having much contact. Since she moved so far from home she is often the one who seeks out communication, which is nice.
Thanks for your reply, Dee.
Well, my DD and DH have been sleuthing what
Dee, sorry, I forgot about your post and questions!