The great stocking dilemma.

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The great stocking dilemma.
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Sat, 11-05-2011 - 10:36am

Am having trouble making the transistion from nuclear family to extended family when it comes to Christmas stockings.

I had crossstitched stockings for DH, myself and our three DDs which we have been using since the mid 80's (in DDs case since her first Christmas) also added one for our dog when he came along.

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Sat, 11-05-2011 - 2:13pm

When I was growing up (with 4 siblings who are quite a bit older than me) I can't for the life of me remember us all having stockings except my own, and its very possible that when my brothers and sister got to a certain older age, maybe they just didn't get stockings anymore and only I (and maybe my sister for a while as she's closest in age to me) got a stocking.

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Sat, 11-05-2011 - 2:35pm

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Sat, 11-05-2011 - 8:39pm

My thoughts on this take more or less the same vein as Shirley's; that is, to question the tradition and if/when it gets changed or stopped.

My childhood stocking experience was like Shirley's in that we used an actual sock that we currently wore, so they got larger as we got older. It was hung on Christmas Eve right before bed. The contents were always a tangerine at the toe, and some nuts in the shell and candies inside. It wasn't filled to the top nor did it have real gifts in it. I am the youngest of 3 with the eldest being 7 years older than me so some things got stopped before I was was quite ready to give them up, like an Easter basket, but I think that Christmas stockings continued into my teen years or possibly until my parents sold the house when I was about 21 which did make a time of transition and opportunity to rethink traditions. So stockings stopped by young adulthood although there was usually a gift from "Santa" under the tree still!

When each of my kids were born my MIL made them a felt stocking decorated with sequins etc, really nicely done. So those became decorative items that are hung on the fire screen when the Christmas tree gets decorated. They are fairly large and when the kids were young I did put little things in them like pencils, barrettes, Matchbox cars, etc in addition to a tangerine and some candy. For several years that bought me some extra sleep, as the kids could open their stocking when they woke up but had to let me sleep until X o'clock! Once the stockings get filled with goodies they are set on the hearth, as the felt tab would tear from hanging with the weight--they likely were intended to be decorative only. Over the years its gotten harder to think of what little things to put in them, I think that last year all I put was fruit, nuts and candy. I'm presently at the point of thinking about whether to continue the tradition at all, and if I should retire the stockings completely because they are looking somewhat tired and faded after 28 and 25

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Mon, 11-07-2011 - 4:01pm
Well, my situation kinda evolved on stockings & I didn't really decide. I have done stockings for my 3 kids, DH & the dog. DH does mine. When DD & her DH because SOs, I never thought to do a stocking for him but she decided to do one. Then when they moved into their own home last year & weren't coming for Xmas morning she took her stocking with her. One less for me. Youngest DS got engaged just before Xmas last yr & I didn't give her a stocking. Not sure if I will be DS either as they are now living in their own place too.

The one tradition that I haven't stopped & am likely to continue is that I give PJs on Xmas Eve to my kids if they sleep over. I have included their SOs in this and of course now my DGS.

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Mon, 11-07-2011 - 4:23pm

I've given PJs to our children, but did not, as I know some people do, give it to them Christmas eve so they would have nice new PJs in the morining photographs of them unwrapping their presents.

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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 7:37am

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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 11:30am
Yep, think you need to treat the others the same at least until u can find some way to stop it. Does DD1 & SO1 live together? If not, that could be the trigger to stop stockings for both of them when they move in. Otherwise, it may have to be when they have kids or u decide it's too much work.

I don't worry about decisions not to have kids these days. DD said the same thing all her life as did her best friend. They each have 1 child both from accidents & are both thrilled to be Moms. Not sure they will proceed with other kids esp the friend as her dd is 10 now. My DD keeps going back & forth on a 2nd but if it is planned then it will be in the next year as she thinks 5 yrs is the maximum she should have been kids. Noah is 4 1/2 now.

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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 11:57am

"I don't worry about decisions not to have kids these days"

Me neither...I didn't think I would get married OR have kids and look at what happened lol.

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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 12:22pm
Too funny, Sandy & her friend bonded immediately at university because neither wanted to get married OR have kids too! They are both married with child. lol
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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 1:27pm

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