Need opinion ASAP

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Registered: 01-30-2007
Need opinion ASAP
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Thu, 08-22-2013 - 12:44pm

Hi, it's me again.  You're probably getting tired of me.  Well, I'm looking for advice again.  You know the history of my son and DIL.  Well, they were supposed to bring our grandbaby here this weekend and now their plans have changed and they're not coming.  We have been looking so forward to this.  We have been very patient because they've been very busy and with the issues they were having we didn't want to push it.  Well, it's getting to be like once a month we are seeing her.  (You may recall me mentioning they are only 80 miles away.)   They aren't coming here, they say, but we can come there.  Well, in almost 5 months of our grandbaby's life she's been here only 3 times, and one of them was a very short visit.  We are tired of this.  I have put together an e-mail to send to my son (to the both of them)  My husband has proofed and critiqued it and I even had my other son's girfriend look at it and she thinks we're being reasonable.  BUT, I am so afraid my DIL is going to go off the deep end.  The biggest point we are making in this letter is that they are not just keeping dgd from us, but from her great-grandparents as well.  My in-laws live here, by us.  MIL is asking when baby is coming again.  I don't have to tell you that with old people we don't know what's going to happen, and my son understands this.  So, I'm hoping this letter will get that point across that this isn't just for us, but for them.  I need to send this e-mail really soon, if I'm going to send it.  Like I said, I'm just afraid DIL will go off the deep end and then keep her from us.  I don't think she would be that mean, but I just don't know.  WDYT?   Thanks!   Oh, and we already offered to go and get her and bring her home again, that didn't work. 

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 08-22-2013 - 1:33pm

Do they give any explanantion as to why they changed their minds about coming? Could it be something came up or they were tired? If the baby isn't sleeping thru the nite they could just have been tired. Maybe they just ddn't feel like traveling with the baby cause she's teething and cranky. Is there any reason you and your husband can't go see them? Maybe take turns like if they come there one time then you go by them the next? We lived 6 hours away from family when our kids were young and we took turns with the grandparents going to see each other. I always felt they had the easy drive because they didn't have to pack a porta crib, diapers, toys ect for the trip, or put up with cranky little ones in the back seat. 

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