Planning for wedding #2 has started
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|Sat, 02-11-2012 - 11:57pm|
Boy, did I come home to a big surprise. Andrew and Sydney (why do people give girls boy's names) went from no wedding plans 3 wks ago & not wanting to discuss it to having a new wedding date (sooner) and a hall. One of the first things Sandy told us when she picked us up from the airport was that "the kids" had moved their wedding date forward & booked a hall. She was not a happy camper. Sandy wants then to wait a few more years but I keep telling her that it's not our decision. Syd is only 21 which is 10 yrs younger than Sandy was when she got married. Andrew is 25. Sandy feels they both need to live a little more before settling down but they are both home bodies not travelers like she was.
Sydney is very practical & when she discovered that she could save $1500 by moving her wedding from Oct to May 2013, then that was her decision. Andrew would still rather have an October wedding as that was a tradition in my Mom's family. Sandy & I were both married in Aug so we didn't follow tradition. The Moms are to join them on the 29th to view the venue. This is one wedding that will be done the bride's way. Syd wanted a modern hall & Andrew likes the older, historic locations - choice was modern venue. He wanted to wear a kilt as he is very proud of his Scottish ancestry (very diluted) but she refuses to have any plaid in the wedding. It seems that he is getting his way on the ceremony venue. My task tonight was to search out churches for them to be married in. Syd is an atheist but Andrew was raised in the United Church. I had told her that most United Churches wouldn't give her a hard time about her lack of belief & I guess she believes me. I have sent in a request for the cost to hold the wedding at our family church but suspect it will be too expensive for them. It was 50% more than other churches 2 yrs ago when I checked for my goddaughter. It would have been nice but there are other lovely churches out there. The venue gave them the name of one close by but I think I got that cancelled when I looked at it & it was in a strip mall. They have picked their invitations & are meeting with a photographer next week. So from nothing to moving on down the list of "to dos" quickly.
They are planning a slightly smaller wedding than Sandy's but it will be more princess like as Syd has been planning her wedding all her life like most girls. Syd has very strong opinions & her mother has already told me that she doesn't expect to be included in things. I have told Syd that I believe she should share this time with her Mom so we will see. I'm not sure if we are being included in the venue visit because Andrew knows that I'm expecting to be as we are paying for this. I'm a much stronger personality than Syd's Mom. Syd & her Mom are close but Syd's Mom while being very nice is a bit of an airhead or at least treated that way by her family. The father runs the family and Syd is very much a Daddy's girl. She is very creative & I'm assuming there will be personal touches to this wedding too. She is using red & white as her colours which is similar to Sandy but her main colour was taupe with the red & white accents. At this point, the only thing I'm likely to request is having Noah as the ring bearer. Andrew said today that Syd didn't want one but both Noah's parents are to be in the wedding party. I suspect Sandy will be very hurt if Noah isn't included & since he is so special to both Andrew & Syd, I would like to see Syd change her mind.
I got a bit emotional today when Andrew told me he asked his brother to be his best man. It's was so touching as these 2 fought like cats & dogs growing up. There are 4 yrs between them & I don't believe James really forgave Andrew for being born. lol It was wonderful that he wanted his brother to have this special role in his wedding. Then he asked us if we would have an engagement party this summer for them. Andrew rarely will ask for anything. I had offered when they got engaged & they said no then but now they want to get all the families including extended together before the actual wedding.
Well, here's my warning that the next 15 mths will contain wedding plans again in my posts. I promise to go to the "all in the family" board if I'm going to complain!